chelbel00 : Hi, my name is XXXXX XXXXX I'd be happy to help you with this question!
chelbel00 : The big problem here is that in the English language, whom is becoming less common and has started sounding strange to us--even when I know the techical rules, I don't always choose the "right" one when it sounds too strange, even when writing a paper for school. So the correct choice here if this isn't for a grammar class might actually be "who" even though "whom" is correct.
chelbel00 : As far as why that is the correct choice, it's because you need indirect pronouns in these clauses. For example in the first sentence you would always say "and shapes him" rather than "and shapes he." The same is true in the second, although it's a bit tougher to make a good example sentence there. Maybe something like "we are him" but like I said, no easy substitute structure there.
chelbel00 : Again, though, there js a difference between what is colloquially correct and what is techically correct, so if this is only going into a paper, I would personally go with "who"
chelbel00 : Does that answer your question?
Customer: Ty for a great answer, we will go with who