I have a friend with Aspergers Syndrome he has been
‘suspended' and blacklisted by gaydar...
I have a friend with Aspergers Syndrome he has been ‘suspended' and blacklisted by gaydar, for what I believe is an illegal suspension, if not that it is very unprofessional.Submitted: 8 years ago.Category: UK Law
I have been made aware by my friend Michiel that his Gaydar profile has been suspended following a complaint from another user on the site.
Michiel has a condition called Asperger's Syndrome, which is a mild form of Autism. One of the defining traits of Asperger's is a very strict and rigid moral code that the individual with AS will follow without deviation.
His conduct was not, in any way, intended to cause unnecessary distress or to cause defamation. In fact, a trait of Asperger's is extreme honesty.
Gaydar support and MD's need to understand that he am disabled, he do not see the world as you, I or they do, he see things very differently, they don't seem to be able to cope with people with disabilities.
They have singled out myself for doing things that other people have done on the website brought it to the attention, as requested, and they not been suspended. This is classed as 'less favourable treatment'. Because he is registered disabled.
Anyone within reason are allowed to speak freely, whether you have terms and conditions or not and anyone is allowed to defend themselves in a public domain chat room, they in no uncertain terms have breached his human rights by silencing him when he has been defending himself and also warning others, and also telling of his condition to people who call him names.
They have to make reasonable adjustments to accommodate him and anyone else, and as a service provider they are accountable for what people do on their website, they provide a platform for people to converse on, and various other things. He have morals, he sticks to these, he is very honest, and does the correct thing.
He was advised to use the abuse button, he has, and it did work well, until they have now decided that he is using it too much, abusing an abuse button, that's a new one!
He had also had a debate with someone On 21 April, the user stated in the chat room that they wanted to meet someone, he looked at their profile and it said there were in a open relationship, and he wanted further information as he did not understand why the person was asking for a particular thing.
So he asked why did the user want to meet someone else when he already had a boyfriend. The user responded and my friend replied, he then got very anxious because he saw the user as dangerous and calculating and he stopped talking and told the user he was making me feel ill, and he felt sick, he blocked the user in question and returned to chatting in the main room.
The user then started to chat in the room, saying that my friend was illogical and had no idea of the world. My friend felt threatened by this and he reported it using the abuse button and also sent an email explain what had happened. You can see the conversation as it went , it can be provided to you..
Gaydar then responded saying they had suspended his profile, even though he had ‘owned up' to having this debate! It was a debate between two adults! Well one Adult it seems. He asked me one of his friend to contact gaydar and they refused to talk about it.
They have sent a letter, which both he and I are confused about, ( see pdf attached)(It is address to his old user name and it is written is haste) he asked someone to write in to gaydar in January, and they never replied to it. They are now using this letter to reply three months late, and seem to be washing their hands of it all. And it seems that his condition causes them problems. They are fully aware of it, and don't seem to have done very much to understand his condition they say they have but if they did they would not have acted like this, they would of offered support.
This has now been proven to be discrimination by The Human Rights and Equality Commission as they have been privileged to see the emails that gaydar have sent out, one being very contradictory indeed and one in no uncertain terms discriminating me because he see things different due to my disability.
I myself have tried to talk to gaydar they keep referring to the letter they sent, see below email.
By suspending his account, he is now extremely anxious as the one means by which he meet other people has been taken away.
I would like to ask that you consider this very seriously, This individual appears to be a very calculating and potentially dangerous person and gaydar appears to be very discriminating against Michiel because he is different and see things differently, and I think to simply ignore these concerns about him would be a grave error.
They will not reply to him or speak to him on the telephone or in email, they will only communicate with a legal person.
Please feel free to contact myself if you require any more information