The only way you can claim the loan interest on any of that is if they were for business or your personal
home. If your HELOC was used to improve your home, you may deduct interest on lines up to $1 million ($500,000 married filing separately
). If your HELOC used for other purposes, you may deduct interest on lines up to $100,000 ($50,000 married filing separately).
If they were for business then it would be claimed on the business return. Only the interest amounts are deductible
not the principle amounts.
If you are paying alimony then you may use that as a deduction on your 1040 but not child support. Child support is never a deduction to the payer or taxable to the receiver.
As far as him not giving you really relevant information (interest amounts and joint liability
info) you are to file with what you can find out and what you know. If the iRS were to question the amounts you would need to show them the information you have. You should be able to get the interest amount from the bank and your medical
bills you should not have a problem getting. The lawyer fees are not deductible unless they itemized out what you paid for any advice on the taxablility of any amounts and then you could just use that portion.
I sympathize with your situation but would do you no good if I did not stick to the tax law. The last thing you want is someone to feel too much and give you advice based on compassion rather than true tax information. You need not offer more money, your deposit was made and when you accept or give your opinion I will be credited with the assistance to you, nothing more is required from you.