Thank you for your question. I will try to assist you in answering it today but please feel free to ask as many follow up questions as you like until you are 100% satisfied.
You are describing something that is really quite upsetting. When "adults" do not know and understand that a divorce is traumatic for children as it is, and then proceed to use the child as a tool or weapon in a divorce. They have no concept of the harm they are doing to the child(ren).
Having said that, from what you have written, it appears as though the father's situation is not ideal for the child, and you should get Social Services and the family advocate involved. At the very least, the father will have to provide a separate bed for the daughter.
In the meantime it would be wise, no matter how difficult of seemingly impossible it is, for both parents to attend some form of parenting course so that the father can grasp the importance of still maintaining a united front, and being consistent in applying the rules and disciplining the child.
I hope this answered your question.
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