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I am sorry to hear about your marital troubles but unfortunately there is no way in which you can force her to accept any settlement offer. You can however use the correspondence in trial if you get a trial date even if it is marked "without prejudice" as only legitimate settlement proposals will not be admissible.
If she has instituted a counter claim and you consent thereto, you can always file a notice stating that you withdraw your opposition to her counterclaim and your claim IF you agree to the terms she asked for in the counter claim. If she issued summons, you can do the same thing in respect of her claims in the summons.
If the above is not an option, you can only try to get an expedited trial date and take the matter before the Judge/Magistrate. You can then use the correspondence against her.
I hope this answered your question.
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