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What she is asking you to sign is known as a minute of agreement. The important word here is agreement, if you don't agree you don't sign it, so no she can't force you to sign.
I have read your question half a dozen times now and I can't see how agreement can't be reached as what you say is acceptable seems to be exactly what she is asking for. Two weekends out of a month equates to every second weekend unless you want two weekends in a row. As for taking them for tea, two nights a week does not seem unreasonable, after all they are your children.
If an agreement is signed it is not signed month to month, it is an agreement that exists until it is superseded by another and would last for longer than 6 months if signed.
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