Recent Questions by TherapistMaryAnn

why do i only have nightmares

I recently proposed a girl and she rejected me. I have been very close to her since past 8 months. I am feeling extreme grief and misery. It was my first time, I have had an opposite gender as my very close friend. It feels to me that this pain will never go away. However, she is yearning for continuing the friendship, but I don't want that now, beacause whenver I see her I get revisited by those emotional trauma and sadness. However we are in the same class and same project, due to that, unavoidably we need to work together, and I cannot totally ignore her, during that time things get really painful. How to deal with that ?

Ok here's the gist of my issues. My boyfriend/father of my children cheated on me with someone who I considered a very close friend. When I started having suspicions both of them lied to my face when I asked each of them separately. We ended up fighting and I went to Texas with the kids to my father's to collect myself. When I came back she tells me she's pregnant and it could be my boyfriend's. Well after speaking to my boyfriend about why he cheated on me with her and after getting her version, neither story matches up. I'm having trust issues because of the affair and the stories not matching. We're attempting to work things out but I don't know how to get things to a more trusting level between us. What can I do to overcome what happened and to get things to a better standing