My term boyfriend and I are struggling. He's unsure what heMy long term boyfriend and I are struggling. He's unsure what he wants now. We're high school sweethearts. We've been through it all and are practically family. We've been doing long distance for abou… read more
Karamat Mahwish
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Again lol. so and I actually saw each other tonight. we werehey me again lol. so Nick and I actually saw each other tonight. we were able to talk for a little bit and we again go intimate. I mention if he wanted to be just as a friends with benefits kind of th… read more
Julie-AnneS
Senior Psychologist
PhD
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I'm 37 & I dated a 24 yr old girl back in September 2020I'm 37 & I dated a 24 yr old girl back in September 2020 which only lasted about a month because she kinda ghosted me. We then became friends within our group of friends a few weeks later. Eventually … read more
TherapistJen
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Master's Degree
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I've asked this question in different ways, I've been tornI've asked this question in different ways, I've been torn and confused so I need more help. My ex girlfriend and I were together for over a year. We broke up almost 5 months ago but stayed in contact… read more
TherapistJen
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Master's Degree
4,101 satisfied customers
I need to know how to get my ex back. My boyfriend and I hadMy boyfriend and I had been dating 10 months and everything was perfect (at least I thought they were). No fights, fire romance, connection on a soul level. I have never been comfortable enough to be that vulnerable with another person but my boyfriend put me completely at ease. Open, honest, secure, it was everything.In the few weeks before the break up he went through some significant changes. Work ramped up and he had become increasingly stressed, his best friend had moved out of their share house and into this weird single guy frat house. His other friends have just got engaged. We were approaching our one year (which I've heard people can feel pressure about). I have never once mentioned marriage, moving in together, kids, I know he moves slow, his friends told me to expect that. His last long term relationship was 5 years and ended 4 years before he met me. It ended because she wanted marriage and kids and he didn't want to settle down (she was 31 and he was 26). We are now both 31 so I wondered if he was feeling pressured subconsciously, but like I said i am in no rush for any of that stuff.Everything prior to the break up to me seemed fine. I knew he was stressed about what I mentioned above and I was super supportive about everything. He never gave any indication that he was going to break up with me. We were making future plans up until the weekend before, he was still super affectionate and attentive. Everything was honestly fine.He was being a bit evasive over text about having things he needed to “offload”. I thought it was work stress or something. He wouldn't tell me over text saying that he had trouble talking about his emotions over text. I sensed something and I called him. He said he couldn't talk about it over the phone so I asked him to come over. This is where everything went downhill...He came over Tuesday and tried to break up with me. He said that he had been feeling unhappy for a while, that something was missing but he didn't know what it was, that he still loves me, I'm the perfect girlfriend and tick every box for what he would want in a life partner but that something was missing. I was completely blindsided and very emotional so I refused to accept it, cried, begged etc. We didn't really get anywhere so we decided to talk the next day. I didn't sleep at all and messaged Wednesday morning saying I needed some time so I said could we talk Saturday. So he came over at 10am and we spoke until 1pm. He just said he isn't sure, somethings missing, he's not sure if he's ever going to get “there”, he said the relationship is perfect, I'm great, nothings wrong etc but he just doesn't feel like it's going to go anywhere. He said he loves me and he's 90% sure that he wants to be with me (opposed to my 70% which I said before he said 90%) but there is something not quite right and he feels uneasy and guilty because he feels I love him more than he loves me and that I deserve better.To me he doesn't seem sure about his decision... I gently challenged him on being commitment phobic and that maybe his avoidant attachment issues stem from his mum because she's cold and avoidant. She also lied to him about him having a dad for 25 years - she told him his dad was dead and he only found out otherwise 6 years ago. She refuses to discuss it. He acknowledged that there's truth to it. Perhaps he is scared to try in this relationship because he thinks this could be it and he's afraid of losing it like he lost his dad? Or that his upbringing has made him feel unworthy of accepting love from other people? I'm not forgetting the fact that he said that somethings missing, maybe there is, but is that worth throwing away a great relationship? Shouldn't you work through this to rectify what is missing together, as a team? He said he doesn't change his mind and he doesn't go back to past relationships. I asked him to try and work past this with me and he did seem genuinely conflicted. He took time to consider … read more
TherapistJen
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Master's Degree
4,101 satisfied customers
There's a guy who is my ex who has always contacted meThere's a guy who is my ex who has always contacted me through the years. We dated for four years during high school and he cheated multiple times.) it's been 10 years since that and I truly think he … read more
TherapistJen
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Master's Degree
4,101 satisfied customers
Uy for 2 years basically. Last night he told me I'm theuy for 2 years basically. Last night he told me I'm the nicest girl he's ever talked to and that I treat him better than any girl ever has but he doesn't see us lasting forever. He says he doesn't wan… read more
TherapistJen
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Master's Degree
4,101 satisfied customers
I've know this guy for 3-3.5 years- the first year in halfI've know this guy for 3-3.5 years- the first year in half we didn't speak as much but the past 2 years we took multiple classes together in college & hungout a few times a friends. At one point I beg… read more
LeahLMSW
Clinical Social Worker
Master's Degree
904 satisfied customers
My ex boyfriend and I broke up 3 months ago. I was clingyHello.. my ex boyfriend and I broke up 3 months ago. I was clingy and needy after the breakup which made him pull away from me. We were still friends though. About a week ago I heard that he found a n… read more
TherapistJen
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Master's Degree
4,101 satisfied customers
I am living with my boyfriend. He knew me an entire yearI am living with my boyfriend. He knew me an entire year before ever asking me over. He knew exactly what kind of crazy I am. I've been divorced 17 years, I am a free spirit and go with the flow of th… read more
Rev. Dr. August
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He said he's just not feeling it and doesn't have feelingsHe said he's just not feeling it and doesn't have feelings for me anymore after things went down hill after a fight and a relationship talk can I get him back … read more
Dr.G.
Counseling Psychologist
Doctoral Degree
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I met this guy, we finally hung out for the first time afterI met this guy, we finally hung out for the first time after talking for four months, and my friend tagged along. This girl we met at a party we went to became my friend, and my friends friend on Snap… read more
John-Michaels
Counselor
Master's Degree
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I'm in a situation now that I could really use some insightI'm in a situation now that I could really use some insight on if possible.I met a guy back in December (Miami boy I'll call him) who I really liked, though at the time I was actually in a relationshi… read more
CounselorJules
MS Community Counseling
Master's Degree
765 satisfied customers
Hello, Im going to give you short facts about me so you canHello, I'm going to give you short facts about me so you can get an idea and background details. I'm 25 years old, moved & transferred to a different school for husband (whom I'd known for just 3 mont… read more
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Master's Degree
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