I'm having trouble with my relationship atm. Not sure what…

Your decision should be based on what you need, expect and are willing to afford in relationships.

If like most people, you want a truly fulfilling relationship, you will look for a partner who has good compatibility with you at core areas, from value systems and personalities to reciprocal affection, passion, main goals, and lifestyles.

Some people could feel OK with a good friend as a partner, but most do not want a close friend for the long run, but a life partner, which requires romance, passion and good physical and sexual chemistry. If that's your case, then Sam could not meet your needs/expectations.

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Asher ended your relationship, which means his personal issues, and his level of affection, passion, hope, and interest in you are not good enough for him to choose to stay and work with you on building a fulfilling relationship

If you believe it is worthy for you to wait to see if Asher resolves his personal issues, and changes his feelings towards you, leading to another chance, that could make sense. Obviously, you do not know if that will happen and how long it could take.

Does it make sense?

No, this is a public forum, it is not confidential. But I can request it to be blocked from public access once we end.

I see, then you ended it because he clearly told you he would end it right away if he got into that program since he does not want any long-distance relationship, right?

I see, so he is insecure and does not know himself any better. Then you will take the risk of affording things not to work. You will consider getting back if you feel it is worthy of taking such risk then.

Correct, and that's why you need to make choices based on what you feel, need, want and expect here, and not on who pushes you more or not.

Continue to be honest and authentic, respectful and gentle; he will see you make choices based on how much you respect and care about him since you do not want to hurt him, and fuel something that could just cause further pain in the long run. If he is mature enough and cares about you, he will fully understand and respect you and your decision, no matter how painful it is.