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Hello! I think I need help. I think I overreact in my relationship, and I dont know how to stop.

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I am in a long term relationship with my boyfriend (fiancee) of 4.5 years. We're long distance but are finally getting close (32 days!) to finally being together in the same country! Our relationship has been challenging because of the distance. We have very few fights when we are together (2-3 times a year for weeks at a time), but I am really worried because I think I overreact too much. I just dont know how to stop, or if I am?

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Just that we are very much in love, and I want to give talking to someone about this all I've got. I think I need help.

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PHello, I'm Rafael. I'm very sorry to know about how much distress this situation has caused to you.

At the same time, it's really great to know you have been able to built this long term/distance relationship, and that very soon you will be able to get finally together! Only you know the excitement and relief, as well as the many other emotions such experiences could bring.

Your message is very clear, describing how, regardless the distance, you have been able to share and have very few fights, which have not undermined the core of your relationship once you are ready to start a life together after almos 5 years. You openly state how you overreacting tendency is your biggest concern, and I would truly love to hear more from you about this, how has this affected your relationship, and what have you tried so far.

People overreact because of very different reasons, I want to hear how you feel so we could dialogue about what can be done about it. Relationships are among the toughest experiences bringing challenges that could easily trigger our fears, vulnerabilities, and past wounding. Distance itself adds a whole new dimension of distress, once couples cannot share, discuss, enjoy or work on their relationship as needed without the difficulties and limitations distance uses to create around verbal and non-verbal communication, help from support systems and social networks around the couple, as well as many other factors that just make things more complicated and hard for both partners.

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