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Hi, I am trying to get more real or authentic in my relationship, but I have kept many of my desires and interests secret from my wife. I fear rejection and criticism if I disclose al this, but I also feel like I am about to explode if I don't. Partially because I feel disconnected from her and partially because I feel like we both are hiding things and things could be better if we are more open and honest.

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Not sure at this point, but I will say no

Submitted: 3 months ago.Category: Relationship
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Customer reply replied 3 months ago
I just have not been able to shift gears and be more open. I have a hard time bringing up things like this as well as starting difficult conversations.
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Counselor: John-Michaels, Counselor (LPC) replied 3 months ago
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Customer reply replied 3 months ago
Sexual fantasy, desires, and fetishes. I have a feet & shoes fetish, I also have developed a big desire to play around with; latex & pvc fetish clothes, and have been experimenting on my own with sex toys. No cheating has occurred.
Customer reply replied 3 months ago
I am also very curious about exploring BDSM. I think I am a switch, but I have a lot of interest in being dominated too.
Counselor: John-Michaels, Counselor (LPC) replied 3 months ago
No offense, but I am going to opt out of this. Hopefully, you will find some one more qualified than me to talk to.
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Customer reply replied 3 months ago
Thanks for being honest!
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