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I have a back and forth 9 year relationship with lots of trouble. I am an emotional mess so is he. We both have a lot of trauma and abuse in our backgrounds which I suspect affect how we handle each other. There has been infedelity and a lot of pain. I need to know how to walk away if I should stay anymore. I need help before I go crazy over a broken heart

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When I leave and have no contact he always asks me to come back. This last time he told me he couldn’t live without me and promised me real steps forward. He had me dreaming of having a baby. Talking to me about it, planning it, and then I did one thing wrong and he completely exploded on me and is ignoring me all over again. If I stop talking to him again, he’ll call again. He always does. When does the no contact stop working and what do I do. I still love him with all his flaws. Am I a fool

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