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Hello, Even not sure from where...
Hello,
Even not sure from where to start.
Maybe more than a month ago I meet a girl. I didn't have a lot of girls during my life, but because of general people behavior with their big EGO, I don't really trust everyone. Also I like when girl is smart. This girl is quite smart (she studying now to be a psychologist...some irony here right now). She is beautiful. At first I din't even think to date with her. My friend who bring her to our company brought her to us. He wanted her... not really dating as I understand, just wanting her. she rejected. Then I started quite often visiting her at her work, in cafe she is working. She seemed very interesting to me. But she had a boyfriend that she hated more and more. You see I grew up in a family where father behaved abusively to mother and get drunk a lot. So I teach my self to be better to be more successful, to be good person with good manners. So basically I just was as I am, and that girl liked me.
Last week when on the Valentines day her boyfriend didn't call her for a date, I called her to movie. After the movie I kissed her and she wanted to be with me. She broke up with her boyfriend.
What are the problems. After reaching what I felt something cold inside. I noticed this for maybe 4-5 years. It's just hard for me to feel something. I think is because 8 year ago I started to make meditations, to cut all of the feeling to reach some wisdom. I had progress. But now sometimes I don't even have feeling to my mother. I'm good person, so automatically I behave my self good even without the feelings. And I don't wan't to heart this girl. I don't see anyone around me like her. she fit in my life as I would like it should. Will I use to it, and love her in the end. Yesterday she asked what zodiac do I have. It's twins, and there is said that they are not really good with feelings. She is really in Love with me. And very happy that she found me. I don't remember I saw someone happy like her now.
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Customer reply replied 4 months ago
Sorry for big story
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John-Michaels
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what your saying is intellectually, she seems to be right for you, but you are concerned because you just don’t feel anything?
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Customer reply replied 4 months ago
Hello)
Yep, she felt in love like a child. And it's not the first time, that I just feel something like empty. And it's freaking me out. I feel something but very rarely. As I can see she is good person, and one that fit in to my world.
First of all, go ahead and date her. Give the feelings time.
Second, treat her as if she made you happy. Take her places and treat her nice. See if your actions and respond can stir up your feelings.
Third, you need to maybe seek therapy. Maybe a counselor can help you get in touch with your feelings.Does that make sense?
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Customer reply replied 4 months ago
as I thought at the beginning, try my best to make her happy and eventually something can change?
I have one more question connected to the situation. Should I just add your name, when posting it? I remember about rating
it will come to my attention.
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okay thank you. just a minute
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