Relationship

Have Relationship Questions? Ask a Counselor for Answers ASAP

Ask an Expert,
Get an Answer ASAP!

This answer was rated:

It's been 4 days now without contact. During the night I…

It's been 4 days now...
It's been 4 days now without contact. During the night I began to realise that K will never change her mind. She broke with an email and said in it that if I cared for her I would respect her decision and let her go, and that persuing it further would only build resentment. Of course I did lay it all before her feet, that I would marry her, that the situation with my family would be sorted out. And it would all have been sorted out, and sooner, had she really spoken to me about it so I had realised how urgent it was. I sunk so deep during the night, I never thought it was possible. Everything has died for me, not even so much because I miss K, but because we had such a beautiful mental connection on almost everyting and I still think it is wrong. I believe we could have overcome teh problems and been extremely happy. I can't see that there is anything I can do?
Show More
Show Less
Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Answered in 1 hour by:
1/22/2018
TherapistJen
TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 3,928
Experience: Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Verified
I am so sorry for this type of pain. And as we have discussed the only thing you can do is to leave her be and to go through your process of morning which will eventually lead to Healing. I know it is impossible to see that now so let the healing and grieving process take its course and I believe in time he will be stronger but there is no way to shortcut this pain for you now.
Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Customer reply replied 6 months ago
thanks again. I am also so worried about what she is going through. She is extremely introverted so I am sure she does it entirely on her own. However, I know I can’t do anything right now.
I know that you're worry leads you to feel that if only you could reach out to her and take care of her but you know that doesn't help because she has asked for this so you must respect it and trust that she can manage her own feelings.
Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Customer reply replied 6 months ago
thank you. About to take off for long haul flight so have to stop for now. Thanks again.
Safe travels. Until next time and thanks in advance for your positive rating.
Jen
TherapistJen
TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 3,928
Experience: Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Verified
TherapistJen and 87 other Relationship Specialists are ready to help you
Ask your own question now
Was this answer helpful?

How JustAnswer works

step-image
Describe your issueThe assistant will guide you
step-image
Chat 1:1 with a counselorLicensed Experts are available 24/7
step-image
100% satisfaction guaranteeGet all the answers you need
Ask TherapistJen Your Own Question
TherapistJen
TherapistJen
TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 3,928
3,928 Satisfied Customers
Experience: Licensed Clinical Social Worker

TherapistJen is online now

A new question is answered every 9 seconds

How JustAnswer works:

  • Ask an ExpertExperts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional AnswerVia email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site. Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction GuaranteeRate the answer you receive.

JustAnswer in the News:

Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.

What Customers are Saying:

Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help.

Mary C.Freshfield, Liverpool, UK

This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!!

AlexLos Angeles, CA

Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult.

GPHesperia, CA

I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion.

JustinKernersville, NC

Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around.

EstherWoodstock, NY

Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know.

RobinElkton, Maryland

He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here.

DianeDallas, TX

< Previous | Next >

Meet the Experts:

TherapistMaryAnn

TherapistMaryAnn

Counselor

1,744 satisfied customers

Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues

Ms Chase

Ms Chase

Life Coach

853 satisfied customers

Over 20 yrs experience with Relationships, Sexuality, Friendship, and Family Issues

Alicia_MSW

Alicia_MSW

Psychotherapist

468 satisfied customers

Specializing in relationship/family counseling

Dr. Norman Brown

Dr. Norman Brown

Marriage Therapist

427 satisfied customers

Family Therapist & teacher 35+ yrs; PhD research in couples

DrJackiePhD

DrJackiePhD

Doctor

385 satisfied customers

I have been doing research in relational/interpersonal communication since 1998. My Ph.D. is in interpersonal communication.

Dr. L

Dr. L

Psychologist

366 satisfied customers

Licensed as a Psychologist and Marriage & Family Therapist.

Suzanne

Suzanne

Therapist, LCSW

338 satisfied customers

Experienced in treating trauma, relationship issues, co-dependency

< Previous | Next >

Related Relationship Questions
Here's the deal. This girl dated a guy on/off a total of 6
Here's the deal. This girl dated a guy on/off a total of 6 years. She was the first she ever slept with at age 25. I met her at age 30 in her life but was coming out of an 8 year ordeal myself and not… read more
Anthony Bray, MD
Anthony Bray, MD
Doctoral Degree
9,226 satisfied customers
I have three children ages 9, 10 and 11, two from Mother K
I have three children ages 9, 10 and 11, two from Mother K and one from Mother M. About 8 years, ago Mother M moved 2500 miles away from our hometown where I had regularly visited the 2-year-old girl … read more
CounselorJules
CounselorJules
Licensed Professional Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
57 satisfied customers
Hi, I need advice on what to do on a girl. I dont like
Hi, I need advice on what to do on a girl. I don't like talking about my relationships with my friends because I feel uncomfortable so this was the best option for me. I've been talking to this girl f… read more
TherapistJen
TherapistJen
LCSW, CPC
Master's Degree
3,928 satisfied customers
I have been in an relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years
I have been in an relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years next week and as far as I am concerned, it has been a good relationship, a very happy one. Yet a few days ago, my boyfriend told me he no l… read more
TherapistMaryAnn
TherapistMaryAnn
Counselor
Master's Degree
1,744 satisfied customers
One of my best and oldest friends has had a terrible time with
One of my best and oldest friends has had a terrible time with her relationships, her marriage ended when she found out, not only was her husband being unfaithful on a massive scale but he had been ma… read more
Jen Helant
Jen Helant
Bachelor\u0027s Degree
365 satisfied customers
Its a long one Im afraid, my husband and I have been together
It's a long one I'm afraid, my husband and I have been together 11 years, married for 10. In November last year I left, not because I don't love him but because I had issues from my childhood that hav… read more
Rafael-E-Therapist
Rafael-E-Therapist
Director / Psychotherapist
Master\u0027s Degree
442 satisfied customers
Hello, I am currently in a very complex predicament. My ex
Hello, I am currently in a very complex predicament. My ex boyfriend of 3 years was also my best friend. We both had various mental problems, mine much more severe, which meant he had to look after me… read more
Santo B
Santo B
Master\u0027s Degree
84 satisfied customers
After months of wading through eharmony, hopeless, I finally
After months of wading through eharmony, hopeless, I finally found what appears to be the girl of my dreams. After processing through eharmony, I added her on facebook and we sent a couple of messages… read more
Dr. Paige
Dr. Paige
Psychologist
Doctoral Degree
847 satisfied customers
Hi, I am a soldier currently serving in afghanistan. During
Hi, I am a soldier currently serving in afghanistan. During my tour I have started to see a girl (also a soldier) who is posted to the camp I'm on. At first it was just coffee and chats, but there was… read more
Dr. Paige
Dr. Paige
Psychologist
Doctoral Degree
847 satisfied customers
My son will be 6 next month and his dad(Ill refer to him as K to avoid confusion) recently
My son will be 6 next month and his dad(Ill refer to him as K to avoid confusion) recently came into the picture. What initially seemed like a wonderful thing for my son, is slowly turning into a big … read more
Cathy
Cathy
Master's Degree
221 satisfied customers
I was in a relationship for a year and we are both in our early
I was in a relationship for a year and we are both in our early 30s. We liked each other at school but never said and last year we bumped into each other again and decided to start seeing each other. … read more
psychlady
psychlady
Clinical Director
Master\u0027s Degree
3,517 satisfied customers
My girlfriend and I (were both 30) have been together for
My girlfriend and I (we're both 30) have been together for 4months, I have known her for 3years as a friend. She was in a long term r'ship (7years) until july last year and we started seeing each othe… read more
psychlady
psychlady
Clinical Director
Master\u0027s Degree
3,517 satisfied customers
I need help I have realised over 3 years my ex still has a
I need help I have realised over 3 years my ex still has a stranglehold on my life, I would like to break free from her and move on that way I can stop messing mine and others live up. My ex use to go… read more
psychlady
psychlady
Clinical Director
Master\u0027s Degree
3,517 satisfied customers
Why would she say she is not ready what should i do I met
Why would she say she is not ready? what should i do? I met a girl at my office about one and a year ago (Nov 2009)and at the beginning we went out a couple of times. She had return to Cyprus from her… read more
psychlady
psychlady
Clinical Director
Master\u0027s Degree
3,517 satisfied customers
Before I asked out my current long-distance girlfriend, she
Before I asked out my current long-distance girlfriend, she was with a local guy. When she first started dating him I was quite hurt because she had admitted to being in love with me since she first m… read more
psychlady
psychlady
Clinical Director
Master\u0027s Degree
3,517 satisfied customers
I have three great kids but my 19 year old son is in a relationship
I have three great kids but my 19 year old son is in a relationship with a girl and he has all but moved out of our lives. He spends every minute with her and we have told him she has to come to our h… read more
Dr Rossi
Dr Rossi
Doctoral Degree
1,564 satisfied customers
What do you do if your partner has left and you still love
What do you do if your partner has left and you still love her and everything hurts. I begged her to try again Ive told her I love her, ive never hurt her im not like that just neglected her when tryi… read more
Ms Chase
Ms Chase
Life Coach
853 satisfied customers
hi guys and gals, i have a question. Ive been with a ...
hi guys and gals, i have a question. Ive been with a girl that was abused when she was younger and that has affected the way she handles and deals with relashionships.(understandably). I have been try… read more
KimberlyF
KimberlyF
High School or GED
554 satisfied customers
Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Show MoreShow Less

Ask Your Question

x