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We are not dating but I’ve known him for 15 years, we met at work I thought he was good looking we hit it off as friends. He had me staying over his place a lot, then I found out he was gay/bi I started developing feelings for him I told him I liked him and got upset. We still remained friends but he would flirt with me rub his leg against mine he rubbed his crotch against my butt but denies it happing to this day. Currently now fast forwarding to the last year or so we are close but keeps sending me mixed signals he’s either touching me or poking me or playing footsie or putting his feet against my hips but still denies anything he looks at guys constantly but still does to me. I talked to him tonight about how I’m afraid of losing him and he reacted by kind of changing the subject but still listening to me. I told him I care about him as a friend but wish we had a chance and he didn’t appear to be mad but distracted or didn’t want to admit anything I felt I noticed his eyes glaze over not sure if it means anything. He told me he has his set ways which I understand, which is he doesn’t date but then telling me about having urges. I asked him later if he was mad for what I said and he said no but said it like he was a little upset I’m not sure if he has feelings for being more than friends but I’m scared to lose him if he chooses to ever come out and date a man. He assured me nothing will happen but my feelings are growing and he’s the only one I want to be with dating or not.
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Customer reply replied 7 months ago
My question is he denies me from what did in the past is he afraid to lose me as a friend?
Customer reply replied 7 months ago
He has had the eye for men but never has been out with one but said he would never date either
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