Relationship

Have Relationship Questions? Ask a Counselor for Answers ASAP

Ask an Expert,
Get an Answer ASAP!

My wife's relationship with her step-niece has be bothering…

Customer Question
My wife's relationship with her...
My wife's relationship with her step-niece has be bothering me for a long time. When she would go visit her parents who lived 2 hours away her niece would always come over to spend the weekend with her. My wife never told me she was seeing her just about every time she visited with her parents. I only found out about it from my kids and after asking specifically how often her niece came over which I thought was very unusual. My two teenage sons told me in passing they noticed their mom acted "different" whenever her step-niece was with them at their grandparents. They are in constant communication with each other everyday (texting and calls) when they're not together. When my step-niece comes to visit us (she usually stays for a week) my wife will spend the vast majority of time with her and my wife's behavior towards me changes. She will ignore me for the most part but once in a while she'll come find me (I'm usually in another part of the house) and act overly affectionate towards me (wants me to hug and/or kiss her). I wouldn't normally have a problem with this but I feel that my wife is only being affectionate towards me because she is trying to manipulate me into not being upset with her behavior while her step-niece is visiting.Overall, I wouldn't have a problem with my wife having a close relationship with another woman. However, her step-niece is bisexual (with a stronger attraction to women) and currently in an unhappy relationship with the boyfriend she lives with. I've talked to my wife several times about how I find the changes in her behavior when she is around her step-niece and the constant communication they have everyday to be disturbing. My wife told me that she needs to have relationships with women to be happy. That led to me asking if she had any sexual feelings towards women which my wife strongly denied. But I can't help to be concerned about the relationship she has with her step-niece. I believe they are having an emotional affair and that could eventually lead to something physical. I feel my wife is trying to reassure me to not be concerned about their relationship and to accept it even at the cost of our own.
Submitted: 6 months ago.Category: Relationship
Show More
Show Less
Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Answered in 2 hours by:
1/3/2018
Counselor: DrJackiePhD, Doctor replied 6 months ago
DrJackiePhD
DrJackiePhD, Doctor
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 424
Experience: I have been doing research in relational/interpersonal communication since 1998. My Ph.D. is in interpersonal communication.
Verified
Hi, I am Dr. Jackie, a relationship expert and professor and therapist. I think I can address your concerns. Do you prefer to chat in real time or perhaps a phone or Skype call or just a response on here?
Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Customer reply replied 6 months ago
Hello, your response on the website would be fine.
Counselor: DrJackiePhD, Doctor replied 6 months ago
This answer is protected
Would you like to ask this question?
If you've already paid for this answer, simply Login.
Was this answer helpful?

How JustAnswer works

step-image
Describe your issueThe assistant will guide you
step-image
Chat 1:1 with a counselorLicensed Experts are available 24/7
step-image
100% satisfaction guaranteeGet all the answers you need
Ask DrJackiePhD Your Own Question
DrJackiePhD
DrJackiePhD
DrJackiePhD, Doctor
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 424
424 Satisfied Customers
Experience: I have been doing research in relational/interpersonal communication since 1998. My Ph.D. is in interpersonal communication.

DrJackiePhD is online now

A new question is answered every 9 seconds

How JustAnswer works:

  • Ask an ExpertExperts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional AnswerVia email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site. Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction GuaranteeRate the answer you receive.

JustAnswer in the News:

Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.

What Customers are Saying:

Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help.

Mary C.Freshfield, Liverpool, UK

This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!!

AlexLos Angeles, CA

Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult.

GPHesperia, CA

I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion.

JustinKernersville, NC

Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around.

EstherWoodstock, NY

Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know.

RobinElkton, Maryland

He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here.

DianeDallas, TX

< Previous | Next >

Meet the Experts:

TherapistMaryAnn

TherapistMaryAnn

Counselor

1,741 satisfied customers

Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues

Ms Chase

Ms Chase

Life Coach

853 satisfied customers

Over 20 yrs experience with Relationships, Sexuality, Friendship, and Family Issues

Alicia_MSW

Alicia_MSW

Psychotherapist

468 satisfied customers

Specializing in relationship/family counseling

Dr. Norman Brown

Dr. Norman Brown

Marriage Therapist

427 satisfied customers

Family Therapist & teacher 35+ yrs; PhD research in couples

DrJackiePhD

DrJackiePhD

Doctor

424 satisfied customers

I have been doing research in relational/interpersonal communication since 1998. My Ph.D. is in interpersonal communication.

Dr. L

Dr. L

Psychologist

366 satisfied customers

Licensed as a Psychologist and Marriage & Family Therapist.

Suzanne

Suzanne

Therapist, LCSW

338 satisfied customers

Experienced in treating trauma, relationship issues, co-dependency

< Previous | Next >

Related Relationship Questions
I don't know if my wife is bisexual or has lesbian
I don't know if my wife is bisexual or has lesbian tendencies. We still have sex but no matter what I do I can't get her to have an orgasm. She thinks that if we explore with another woman it will spi… read more
CounselorJules
CounselorJules
Licensed Professional Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
57 satisfied customers
I have a family concern. My wife's sister is always taking
I have a family concern. My wife's sister is always taking photos of her without her knowing it. These are odd looking photos of her-her talking, her bent over, close ups of her face. She also records… read more
Eveningstargazer
Eveningstargazer
Primary Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
15 satisfied customers
I broke up with my girlfriend of 7 months about 1 1/2 months
I broke up with my girlfriend of 7 months about 1 1/2 months ago. She invited me over one night to tell me face to face that she did not think the relationship was going for the better. At that time I… read more
Dr. Z
Dr. Z
Psychologist
Doctoral Degree
9,633 satisfied customers
I have a question. My wife is a nanny. I admit there are
I have a question. My wife is a nanny. I admit there are many aspects of that position I dislike, but particularly when it comes to her. My wife had a very bad relationship with her parents and had a … read more
Ask Eleanor
Ask Eleanor
Psychotherapist Family Therapist Author
Master's Degree
62 satisfied customers
My wife and I have been married for 10 years and we have 2
My wife and I have been married for 10 years and we have 2 children, 5 and 8. We've had a fairly good marriage with our share of ups and downs. We've been affectionate and passionate in the beginning … read more
Ask Eleanor
Ask Eleanor
Psychotherapist Family Therapist Author
Master's Degree
62 satisfied customers
I finally cut my sister out of my life today. Have never gotten
I finally cut my sister out of my life today. Have never gotten along with her (she's older). Never really respected me, and I suppose it didn't help that I was always a lot smarter and more sensitive… read more
Dr. L
Dr. L
Psychologist
Doctoral Degree
366 satisfied customers
my partner wont show any affection, we have no love life. I
my partner wont show any affection, we have no love life. I show her lots of affection. i show her i love her all the time. we don't argue and get on all the time. she never cuddles me so i asked her … read more
Jen Helant
Jen Helant
Bachelor\u0027s Degree
365 satisfied customers
A few months back, I began getting "vibes" from my wife of
A few months back, I began getting "vibes" from my wife of 14 years; the sort of "vibes" that were saying that I am not as relevant as I used to be, not as deserving of her attention as I used to be a… read more
Dr. Paige
Dr. Paige
Psychologist
Doctoral Degree
847 satisfied customers
My niece became estranged from me starting about 5 years ago.
My niece became estranged from me starting about 5 years ago. I first started to notice this when she did not acknowledge my phone call to her letting her know her grandfather had died. I called her d… read more
TherapistMaryAnn
TherapistMaryAnn
Counselor
Master's Degree
1,741 satisfied customers
My wife and I have traveled a great distance to spend a significant
My wife and I have traveled a great distance to spend a significant amount of time with my parents in order for them to spend time with their first grandson. (We are in are early 30's.) They like spen… read more
DrFee
DrFee
Psychologist
Doctoral Degree
168 satisfied customers
I have searched the internet for an answer and am hoping you
I have searched the internet for an answer and am hoping you can help me. I have been married to my wife for 26 yrs. The problem I want to ask you about has been around since our first year of marriag… read more
MrsRuss0114
MrsRuss0114
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Master\u0027s Degree
154 satisfied customers
My friend visited me for Easter. Wr had a wonderful time.
My friend visited me for Easter. Wr had a wonderful time. When she left I felt very lonely and develop feelings for her. I am married and have a two kids. Now I find it difficult to live without her. … read more
psychlady
psychlady
Clinical Director
Master\u0027s Degree
3,517 satisfied customers
I am very grateful for your help so far. I have some more questions. I
I am very grateful for your help so far. I have some more questions. I now feel that my marriage has ended. I didn't want this but my wife seems determined to separate. She is an emotional blackmailer… read more
psychlady
psychlady
Clinical Director
Master\u0027s Degree
3,517 satisfied customers
The relationship here is one between an an uncle and niece.
The relationship here is one between an an uncle and niece. I'm the uncle and happily married for 25 years. My niece, Kylie, is 9 years old and extremely smart but recently has been having trouble in … read more
psychlady
psychlady
Clinical Director
Master\u0027s Degree
3,517 satisfied customers
HI, I am 29 (Male), my wife is 30. Recently we realised while
HI, I am 29 (Male), my wife is 30. Recently we realised while watching pornography (I'm not asking whether this is right or wrong) that women and lesbian sex turns my wife on. We have a good sex life … read more
Dr Rossi
Dr Rossi
Doctoral Degree
1,564 satisfied customers
Ask Jennifer. Hi Jennifer. Lisa and I are together and things
Ask Jennifer. Hi Jennifer. Lisa and I are together and things r going pretty well for the most part. But we still argue over her going home. Fo example. She went home tues into wed and I didnt mind be… read more
Jennifer
Jennifer
School Psychologist
Master's Degree
396 satisfied customers
i have a 5 month long distance relationship.i visit her every
i have a 5 month long distance relationship.i visit her every month and last time it was different.now that she has a new job and works a lot,we couldn't be together that much or even chat as we used … read more
Angela
Angela
Counselor
490 satisfied customers
I have been living with my girlfriend for 7 months now. I am
I have been living with my girlfriend for 7 months now. I am a lesbian and she was always a straight girl until we started dating. She has 3 teenagers and comes from a background of sexual abuse and d… read more
Angela
Angela
Counselor
490 satisfied customers
Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Show MoreShow Less

Ask Your Question

x