Relationship

Have Relationship Questions? Ask a Counselor for Answers ASAP

Ask an Expert,
Get an Answer ASAP!

This answer was rated:

Recently I went to visit my fiancée who lives in another…

Recently I went to visit...
Recently I went to visit my fiancée who lives in another city. We spent about a week together. On the day I was going to leave we had an argument about her wanting to leave early to see a family member. I told her we would go but a bit later that day. She got upset and reacted aggressive, saying that she had no opinion in the relation. I told her that her reaction was not normal and that she needed to see a counselor or psychologist. She said maybe she did but that I also needed to see one because she says I always tell her what to do. So what can be causing this type of reaction in her and what can I do to help her?
Show More
Show Less
Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Answered in 1 hour by:
12/8/2017
Rosemary S.
Rosemary S., Human Services Counseling
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 22
Experience: Master of Science degree, in Human Services Counseling.
Verified

12-08-17

Hello:

In my opinion, it is a good sign

you recognize that counseling

help may be needed in your relationship.

*Regarding your question about

"how you can help your fiancée?"

Although it appears that you only

have the best of intentions, there are

some situations which need professional

help.

Perhaps, the two of you should consider

going together for some 'couples counseling.'

(*Or at least an initial consultation with a

qualified mental health professional,

​who would be able to help make a determination

as to what type of counseling is needed, if any).

I am suggesting that you both seek professional

help together; ​because from what you

described, there may be other unresolved

issues within your overall relationship,

in which you may not even be aware of.

I believe that counseling may help you

both because as stated above,

from what you described,

you both may have some personal issues

which need to be explored with a qualified

mental health professional.

In addition, 'Couples counseling' may help determine

if a romantic relationship would be beneficial,

as well as emotionally healthy, for both of you.

This is may be especially helpful for your situation,

since the two of are engaged to be married.

'Couples counseling' may also help the two of you

determine if you should both move forward

with your 'relationship / engagement,'

and hopefully, be able to work things out.

If you both agree to this, and the two of you

decide to pursue some counseling together; a good place

to start is with your own physician, or the local hospital's

referral service.

If finances are a factor, then you should explain this upfront; and

perhaps the service will be able to direct you to a professional

who charges less money, or allows for installment plans.

Lastly, I always aim to give customers a

five star level-of-service when answering questions.

I hope this information has been helpful.

Good luck.

______________________________________

Legal Disclaimer: The information provided above, is general information only and is not intended to serve as a long, or short term, professional relationship. By providing the above information, I am not engaging in a 'relationship designee - client relationship' with you. The above information is only intended to provide general information. The fee that you may pay me, is for general information only. No part of this disclaimer may be reproduced, or copied, without the express consent of Rosemary S., the owner.

*Rosemary S., is not a psychologist, and earned a Master of Science degree,

in Human Services Counseling.

Rosemary S.
Rosemary S., Human Services Counseling
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 22
Experience: Master of Science degree, in Human Services Counseling.
Verified
Rosemary S. and 87 other Relationship Specialists are ready to help you
Ask your own question now
This answer is protected
Would you like to ask this question?
If you've already paid for this answer, simply Login.
Was this answer helpful?

How JustAnswer works

step-image
Describe your issueThe assistant will guide you
step-image
Chat 1:1 with a counselorLicensed Experts are available 24/7
step-image
100% satisfaction guaranteeGet all the answers you need
Ask Rosemary S. Your Own Question
Rosemary S.
Rosemary S.
Rosemary S., Human Services Counseling
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 22
22 Satisfied Customers
Experience: Master of Science degree, in Human Services Counseling.

Rosemary S. is online now

A new question is answered every 9 seconds

How JustAnswer works:

  • Ask an ExpertExperts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional AnswerVia email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site. Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction GuaranteeRate the answer you receive.

JustAnswer in the News:

Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.

What Customers are Saying:

Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help.

Mary C.Freshfield, Liverpool, UK

This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!!

AlexLos Angeles, CA

Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult.

GPHesperia, CA

I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion.

JustinKernersville, NC

Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around.

EstherWoodstock, NY

Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know.

RobinElkton, Maryland

He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here.

DianeDallas, TX

< Previous | Next >

Meet the Experts:

TherapistMaryAnn

TherapistMaryAnn

Counselor

1,744 satisfied customers

Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues

Ms Chase

Ms Chase

Life Coach

853 satisfied customers

Over 20 yrs experience with Relationships, Sexuality, Friendship, and Family Issues

Alicia_MSW

Alicia_MSW

Psychotherapist

468 satisfied customers

Specializing in relationship/family counseling

Dr. Norman Brown

Dr. Norman Brown

Marriage Therapist

427 satisfied customers

Family Therapist & teacher 35+ yrs; PhD research in couples

DrJackiePhD

DrJackiePhD

Doctor

385 satisfied customers

I have been doing research in relational/interpersonal communication since 1998. My Ph.D. is in interpersonal communication.

Dr. L

Dr. L

Psychologist

366 satisfied customers

Licensed as a Psychologist and Marriage & Family Therapist.

Suzanne

Suzanne

Therapist, LCSW

338 satisfied customers

Experienced in treating trauma, relationship issues, co-dependency

< Previous | Next >

Related Relationship Questions
I feel torn between spending time with my daughter and 3
I feel torn between spending time with my daughter and 3 grandchildren who live in Australia or staying at home with my husband who doesn't want to visit … read more
Dr.G.
Dr.G.
Counseling Psychologist
Doctoral Degree
449 satisfied customers
I broke up with my ex fiancé a few weeks ago.. because I
I broke up with my ex fiancé a few weeks ago.. because I felt we needed to fix some things about our self and I wanted make things better between us and I didn't want to push her away but I wanted us … read more
Bonnie Behee-Semler
Bonnie Behee-Semler
Licenses Psychologist
PhD
1 satisfied customers
My girlfriend and I were dating for around a year and we
my girlfriend and I were dating for around a year and we attend the same church . We had both been out of long term relationships and healed each other before forming our own relationship. We were going great and madly Inlove .her behavior was amazing towards me with no signs of changing for the worse up until November 2017 we were having these tiny but annoying arguments mostly caused by me and my trust issues I will admit . So I called her one morning to make up for an argument we had the night before and she suddenly tells me she doesn't love me anymore and she does not want the relationship anymore . I freeze but go about the usual desperate plead and beg route which made her even more upset . We attend church that Sunday and when she sees me she feels the love again and we speak normal for 2 weeks not officially together yet but making moves she evens sends me a detailed email telling me how impressed she is and it will help us going forward . I push to hard the next day of this email and upset her all over again. That weekend before Christmas 2017 she goes totally cold towards me and destroys me in a phone call and tells me I am obsessed with her etc. she drops me a further bombshell the week of Christmas by telling me she is going to meet her ex for breakfast and I need to be mature about it . I decide then and there I am done with this and I cut off all contact with her . No calls or texts and emails . So about 2 weeks go by and she sends me a text ‘hey you have just crossed my mind hope you are well' I respond 5 hours later with ‘I am well . Hope you well,take care' the next week she sends me a pointless text to which I just respond with thank you and this week she sends me a long detailed apology email informing me that she is sorry for pain she had caused me and I am truly a great guy and she doesn't understand why she had so much built up anger toward me and till this day she can't seem to know why she got so upset with me and she doesn't deserve me etc . I responded with a simple thanks for the apology and she said she does not know why she took so long to apologize something just held her back . I don't hate her at all it not in my nature to hold grudges but this girl ruined my holidays and told me really hurtful stuff while she was out having a blast . And now suddenly she feels apologetic. Please advise … read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
180 satisfied customers
I need your opinion please. I am married was having my son
Good morning. I need your opinion please. I am married was having my son with us the other night. He had an allergic reaction to something. So I called my son's mother and was on the phone with her fo… read more
Rev Dr August Abbott
Rev Dr August Abbott
Etiquette consultant
Doctoral Degree
593 satisfied customers
Second opinion] Dear Dr J I am 68 years old and my partner
Second opinion] Dear Dr J I am 68 years old and my partner 57. I have been in relation with her for 1.5 years but we do not live together. About one year ago I received an email with photo from my lad… read more
TherapistJen
TherapistJen
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Master\u0027s Degree
961 satisfied customers
Kate....kind of a strange arena for me, but I am not sure
Hi there Kate....kind of a strange arena for me, but I am not sure how to read this one … read more
TherapistMaryAnn
TherapistMaryAnn
Counselor
Master's Degree
1,744 satisfied customers
I need a little help with my fiance. We are having the same
I need a little help with my fiance. We are having the same argument and it always ends up blowing up out of proportion.… read more
Dr. Z
Dr. Z
Psychologist
Doctoral Degree
1,006 satisfied customers
My 28 yr old daughter just told me she was pregnant with 2nd
My 28 yr old daughter just told me she was pregnant with 2nd child. She has 3 yr old. My daughter doesn't have a GED. She is bipolar and has MS. She has SSDI. She has my medical insurance. I'm a retir… read more
therapist325
therapist325
53 satisfied customers
I want to reconnect with my estranged sister and heal our relationship.
I want to reconnect with my estranged sister and heal our relationship. Back in April, my fiancé, 6 month old daughter and I visited my family in Australia for a 6 week holiday. We were stopping with … read more
TherapistMaryAnn
TherapistMaryAnn
Counselor
Master's Degree
1,744 satisfied customers
My wife and I have a general good relationship. We have been
My wife and I have a general good relationship. We have been together for 13 years and have been married for 1.5 years. I am generally a Type A person who is very driven and who generally likes to be … read more
Martin
Martin
Electrical engineer
Bachelor\u0027s Degree
708 satisfied customers
My wife curses me out, and calls me obsene names, and yells
My wife curses me out, and calls me obsene names, and yells at me just about every other day. She is also constantly accusing me of having sex with women everywhere. At work, in the SUBWAY, etc. I lef… read more
Dr. D. Brown
Dr. D. Brown
14 satisfied customers
Hi,I had a long distance relationship, we got engaged on
Hi,I had a long distance relationship, we got engaged on the 22nd aug. all was going well I met her parents, we booked flights to go see my parents in dec. i was moving over at the end oct. she wanted… read more
BillLCSW
BillLCSW
Psychotherapist, Consultant, Expert Wit.
Master\u0027s Degree
8 satisfied customers
Ok its a really long story...... In April my fiancé left me
Ok it's a really long story...... In April my fiancé left me to go back to his ex (who left him before after 3 years and broke his heart and they had a really bad relationship before, they fought all … read more
Ms. Pam
Ms. Pam
Psychotherapist
Master\u0027s Degree
8 satisfied customers
hi there is it controlling behavior to ask my wife to stop
hi there is it controlling behavior to ask my wife to stop socialising with a male fiend. The backforuind is I have a house in spain. for the past 9 years. 14 months ago the opptunity came up to move … read more
psychlady
psychlady
Clinical Director
Master\u0027s Degree
3,517 satisfied customers
Hi Me and my girlfriend of five years have split up. We are
Hi Me and my girlfriend of five years have split up. We are best friends and have a great sex life but just can't get it together, we argue a lot about things and have very different views on a lot of… read more
Rafael-E-Therapist
Rafael-E-Therapist
Director / Psychotherapist
Master\u0027s Degree
438 satisfied customers
Hi Kate, I spoke to my fiance about my feelings and the threesome.He
Hi Kate,I spoke to my fiance about my feelings and the threesome.He said that if I continue getting angry over it he doesn't know if he could be with me.I had asked him on the Friday night what he tho… read more
TherapistMaryAnn
TherapistMaryAnn
Counselor
Master's Degree
1,744 satisfied customers
My wife is reluctant to have any sexual activity with me.
My wife is reluctant to have any sexual activity with me. About once every 6 weeks or so she gives in and allows me to suck her nipples and lick her clit until she cumms. She will then rub my penis un… read more
Howard Wise
Howard Wise
Master's Degree
223 satisfied customers
My wife asked me if she took her laptop into the other room
My wife asked me if she took her laptop into the other room whether she could get on the internet wirelessly. I told her she could because the laptop was always connecting wirelessly. She got upset an… read more
Rev Dr August Abbott
Rev Dr August Abbott
Etiquette consultant
Doctoral Degree
593 satisfied customers
Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Show MoreShow Less

Ask Your Question

x