Relationship

Have Relationship Questions? Ask a Counselor for Answers ASAP

Ask an Expert,
Get an Answer ASAP!

My husband and I have been together for about 6 years. I am…

Customer Question
Hello, my husband and...

Hello, my husband and I have been together for about 6 years. I am 25 he is 31... everything is pretty good in all aspects except our love life. We are not making love, kissing, or touching. My husband has always had a lower sex drive than myself...but I feel like my sex drive is probably pretty average for a woman my age. I would like to have sex 1-2 times a week but my husband does not need sex at all. This was not how our relationship started. He was very active in the bedroom and it slowly started to fade once we moved in together. Once I got pregnant thats when it really started to sip. We have had sex twice in a year. He says its not me and that it is him. He is overweight and does not feel sexy or confident. But I am tired of always compromising and getting nothing in return. I feel like an ongoing affair will make me feel better and solve this problem because then I won't have to bother my husband anymore. I have told my husband that I want an open relationship but he won't allow it. please help me...I don't know what to do...I love my husband but I can't live like this anymore.

Expert's Assistant: The Psychologist will know what to do. Is there anything else important you think the Psychologist should know?

My husband understand how upset this makes me and keeps telling me to wait for a change. I try to make him motivated to go to the gym by going myself...I cook him very healthy meals but If I don't cook for him or forget to make his lunch he won't make it himself and will not eat healthy...

Submitted: 4 months ago.Category: Relationship
Show More
Show Less
Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Answered in 6 hours by:
12/8/2017
Counselor: TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC replied 4 months ago
TherapistJen
TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 3,785
Experience: Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Verified
I understand how upsetting and frustrating this is for you. You are doing everything you can to stimulate him and to help him and he is not doing much on his end to make any changes other than telling you to wait for a change. I don't know that an open relationship solves it as you think it might it could just encourage other issues that are unforeseeable at this moment. I think if you went to couples counseling it provides you both with a safe and supportive environment to address all of the feelings and issues that are occurring. It also allows him to look at himself and to what is blocking him from being in a healthy and wonderful intimate relationship with you. I agree with him that it is not anything about you and more of his own issues possible depression and insecurities about his body that is getting in the way. This is why I believe a therapeutic situation could offer some help and relief for you while addressing these issues.
Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Counselor: TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC replied 4 months ago
This answer is protected
Would you like to ask this question?
If you've already paid for this answer, simply Login.
Was this answer helpful?
Ask TherapistJen Your Own Question
TherapistJen
TherapistJen
TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 3,785
3,785 Satisfied Customers
Experience: Licensed Clinical Social Worker

TherapistJen is online now

A new question is answered every 9 seconds

How JustAnswer works:

  • Ask an ExpertExperts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional AnswerVia email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site. Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction GuaranteeRate the answer you receive.

JustAnswer in the News:

Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.

What Customers are Saying:

Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help.

Mary C.Freshfield, Liverpool, UK

This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!!

AlexLos Angeles, CA

Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult.

GPHesperia, CA

I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion.

JustinKernersville, NC

Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around.

EstherWoodstock, NY

Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know.

RobinElkton, Maryland

He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here.

DianeDallas, TX

< Previous | Next >

Meet the Experts:

TherapistMaryAnn

TherapistMaryAnn

Counselor

1,720 satisfied customers

Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues

Ms Chase

Ms Chase

Life Coach

853 satisfied customers

Over 20 yrs experience with Relationships, Sexuality, Friendship, and Family Issues

Alicia_MSW

Alicia_MSW

Psychotherapist

468 satisfied customers

Specializing in relationship/family counseling

Dr. Norman Brown

Dr. Norman Brown

Marriage Therapist

427 satisfied customers

Family Therapist & teacher 35+ yrs; PhD research in couples

Dr. L

Dr. L

Psychologist

366 satisfied customers

Licensed as a Psychologist and Marriage & Family Therapist.

Suzanne

Suzanne

Therapist, LCSW

338 satisfied customers

Experienced in treating trauma, relationship issues, co-dependency

DrJackiePhD

DrJackiePhD

Doctor

338 satisfied customers

I have been doing research in relational/interpersonal communication since 1998. My Ph.D. is in interpersonal communication.

< Previous | Next >

Related Relationship Questions
My husband and I have been together 20 and Married 18. He
My husband and I have been together 20 and Married 18 . He have cheated on me the last 10 years and have left me 3 times for the same Jezebel. She divorce her husband to prove to him she wanted to be … read more
DrJackiePhD
DrJackiePhD
Doctor
Doctoral Degree
338 satisfied customers
I went to a singles event with the current guy I am dating.
Hi Jen I went to a singles event with the current guy I am dating. He knew the people there and I told him _THIS IS A SINGLES EVENT. He again was just interested in the fact that he knew the people an… read more
TherapistJen
TherapistJen
LCSW, CPC
3,785 satisfied customers
Dear counselor, I would like to get some advice about
Hello dear counselor, I would like to get some advice about studding for Licensed Clinical Social Worker career. I am currently in school psychology master's program. But I found out that the pressure… read more
Schuyler
Schuyler
1,944 satisfied customers
My boyfriend is living in my house, we share credit cards
My boyfriend is living in my house, we share credit cards and sometimes he pay it use my card, which makes me annoying … read more
DrJackiePhD
DrJackiePhD
Doctor
Doctoral Degree
338 satisfied customers
Dealing with a husband who gets extremely mad and resentful
Dealing with a husband who gets extremely mad and resentful when I spend time with my family especially my grandchildren. We have been married 7 years and he has 3 boys from his first marriage and I h… read more
Carlett F
Carlett F
Therapist
Master\u0027s Degree
32 satisfied customers
My fiancé just kicked me out of the house because I'm a
My fiancé just kicked me out of the house because I'm a recovering alcoholic who relapsed. It's the second relapse in our 1.5 years together. She's talking about calling the wedding off and I'm terrif… read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
180 satisfied customers
My partner has cheated on me many times but says he'd won't
Hi my partner has cheated on me many times but says he'd won't do it now more. … read more
Carlett F
Carlett F
Therapist
Master\u0027s Degree
32 satisfied customers
Looking for a relationship counselor. Should i send my whole
I have a relationship with a much younger filipino woman that up until recently I thought was strong. We met in Singapore 2 years ago and I helped her move back home with her family. We are engaged for the last 18 months and already purchased a home. Our relationship was strong....I thought but she was having trouble with her parents. One night she was angry with her father and went our alone to a bar 2 hours from home. She allowed a guy to sit with her for company and....well they ended up sleeping together that night, unprotected, and she is now pregnant with his baby. I really love her and trying to forgive her but I can't get these images out of my head. It's been a month now since she told me....and initially she was unsure if it was his or mine....but confirmed his. I am faced with a dilemma to either end the relationship with this woman that I still love.....and I believe still loves me....or accepting what she did and raising another man's baby. I am really torn up inside and thought I would be getting better but the pain and hurt are just so great. I wrote her a letter explaining all of my issues and was very candid. It was good to vent but realistically, I have trouble getting over this. Can I ever trust her again? will I be able to accept this baby? Any advice or insights greatly appreciated....… read more
Therapist Leslie
Therapist Leslie
Masters, Professional Psychology
5 satisfied customers
Is there such thing as a sex addict? My older sister just
is there such thing as a sex addict? My older sister just found out her husband has been cheating on her for years with hired escorts and he just got diagnosed as a sex addict. Will he ever change and… read more
S. August Abbott
S. August Abbott
Etiquette consultant
Doctoral Degree
260 satisfied customers
My partner has been having problems with my mother,over the
hi.my partner has been having problems with my mother,over the past few years and has made her feel realy depressed and for her own sannity she would like not to see them for awhile until she gets better how ever long that will be.My parents have no idea she feels this way about them,I have to somehow tell my parents that my wife is not well because of things that they have done over the years .i … read more
Carlett F
Carlett F
Therapist
Master\u0027s Degree
32 satisfied customers
I have met a guy we have been connecting for 4 months He
I have met a guy we have been connecting for 4 months He wants hi help me with credit cards so he wants a picture of front and back Thoughts… read more
S. August Abbott
S. August Abbott
Etiquette consultant
Doctoral Degree
260 satisfied customers
Why woyld my husbans want a relationship that is filled with
Why woyld my husbans want a relationship that is filled with lies and deceit instead Anna open and honest. Things will go great until there is some thing that needs discusses. Tham he flipsour and mak… read more
Carlett F
Carlett F
Therapist
Master\u0027s Degree
32 satisfied customers
My mother is 74 and is having dialysis for end stage kidney
My mother is 74 and is having dialysis for end stage kidney failure. She drives to dialysis 3 times per week. My mother is doing what she needs to do to survive, but it makes her tired.My mother has a… read more
S. August Abbott
S. August Abbott
Etiquette consultant
Doctoral Degree
260 satisfied customers
I have a 17 years old she is a cancer survivor and year 12
Hi I have a 17 years old she is a cancer survivor and year 12 student , she is very stressed and everything has to be her way or we not good or we don't hear her she is crying right now which is Madri… read more
Carlett F
Carlett F
Therapist
Master\u0027s Degree
32 satisfied customers
My scenario is but I just wanted to know if I am
My scenario is long but I just wanted to know if I am overthinking things...I feel a little torn on how to feel … read more
Carlett F
Carlett F
Therapist
Master\u0027s Degree
32 satisfied customers
I hurt my boyfriend terribly by saying some very mean things
I hurt my boyfriend terribly by saying some very mean things while drunk and acting needy/defensive toward the end of the relationship. He also thought I was crying wolf about domestic violence while … read more
S. August Abbott
S. August Abbott
Etiquette consultant
Doctoral Degree
260 satisfied customers
A friend is married to a woman he is very in love with. I
A friend is married to a woman he is very in love with. I feel they love each other very much, and are quite compatible. This wife want several children and a big nice house, which is risky based on t… read more
CounselorJules
CounselorJules
Licensed Professional Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
57 satisfied customers
Got lots to say lol. I have a woman i do feel deep down is
I have a woman i do feel deep down is the one, she moved to Kentucky back in 2016 with her best friend and she wanted me to move with her but at the time i wasnt ready and ended up missing a couple of chances to move down there so now i have another chance but at the same time she dont want to commit to me unless i move there so she is dating other people for the time being and im having problems with that … read more
Carlett F
Carlett F
Therapist
Master\u0027s Degree
32 satisfied customers
Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Show MoreShow Less

Ask Your Question

x