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I have been seeing the same man for the last 10 years. We are not in a committed relationship but he knows I don’t want see him if he meets someone. I recently found out he has being a woman for 2 years. Not sure how I missed all this. When I asked him about it he says he is not dating her. She is just a friend. But he takes her to family events. She recently conta

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I just don’t know what to do.

Submitted: 7 months ago.Category: Relationship
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Hello, my name is John. Honestly, it sounds like your relationship is lopsided. Open for him, Closed for you. I’m not necessarily blaming him, because that seems like an unstated agreement between you. Theoretically you could date others as well. He obviously he knows better though or he wouldn’t be lying about it or at least sugar coating it. It seems to me you want a committed relationship. To me, you need to clarify that to him. If he doesn’t want what you want, you probably need to look elsewhere. There is no reason to be angry over it, just straightforward. Either he agrees or doesn’t. Does that make sense?
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Counselor: John-Michaels, Counselor (LPC) replied 7 months ago
As far as your question, you find it difficult to walk away because you are comfortable. If your ok with that, that’s fine. You don’t seem to be though. You might be afraid you cannot do any better. I really doubt that though. Give yourself credit.
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