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I feel less guilt by not getting back to the guy who we

spoke of earlier right away. This...
I feel less guilt by not getting back to the guy who we spoke of earlier right away.
This is because as you pointed out, he has a tendency to ignore my boundries.
He texted me "where are you" about an hour ago and I didn't respond.
He is pushing to see me most nights of the week. I am often going along as however horrible this may sound... I have not much else to do and we are good friends.
Some chemistry exists, yet not tons.
How important is chemistry ? I know if fades anyway. It is just that if and when any chemistry fades between us, it just may be reduced to a boring friendship. He is
smart and a great conversationalist and we connect on many levels.
I just want to know if you feel a good deal of chemistry is important.
that's all .
thanks for time today
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Chemistry is very important...even if you pushed that thought away it creeps back in. Because of your history, I worry when you say you go along with things...my hope for you is always to speak your mind and do as you desire...not what someone else pushes you to do.

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Customer reply replied 4 months ago
You hit the nail on the head. His pushiness highlights my weakness as to how I tend to go along with things.
I need to learn from all of this and exercise assertiveness, every chance I get.
Thanks for being here for me. I am a work in progress.

We all are so go easy on yourself...these are great learning experiences for you and they are all a spring board for you.

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Customer reply replied 4 months ago
ps I have some chemistry for him.
Worked up to about a 4 on a scale from 1 through 10.
No butterflies or eager to see him etc..
Working with you makes me see that he may not be a long term contender.
This scares me too. That means being alone forever how long.
Currently he is a fun, comfortable companion.
Customer reply replied 4 months ago
I will always feel like something is missing and will have the urge to chase it like I am doing now.
At least I didn't hide it from him. Let things work out the way they are supposed to work out as I follow my heart.
Plus my interactions with you help me revisit reality.
spoken by a woman who has done a ton of work. Well done. great job. Thank you for the wonderful rating and bonus as always it is truly heartfelt and my pleasure to work with you.
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Customer reply replied 4 months ago
Thanks, ***** ***** lucky to have found you.
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