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Hi there. I am sorry to hear about your situation. I really can't tell what is going on with your boyfriend. He did lay it out that he is not in love and doesn't want to waste your time, so I guess that is his reasoning. Likely, he is afraid of commitment. He also probably has unrealistic expectations of the perfect woman he is searching for. But again, this is all a guessing game. As for you, I understand being heartbroken, but I think it is time to move on. He stated his stance on the relationship and you have to respect him for that. Like I tell people, you date to see if there is compatibility. If no compatibility then you are free to move on to another relationship. That is the whole point of dating. I give him kudos for stating his feelings up front like this and not dragging you down a dead end relationship. What do you think?
Well, I think that might be the best route to go. I just hope he is not using you for sexual favors. When someone says they sort of want to be together that usually means they just want to be with you for sex. Being a friend to him may be fine, until you meet someone more serious then the relationship with this guy is likely to end.
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