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From from you describe, this man is absolutely interested in you. He seems to be telling you this (in a million ways!) on a regular basis. I do agree that it is odd that he hasn't asked for your number or out for a date. This makes me believe perhaps he is not available in some way. Are you interested in having a relationship with him or even going on a date with him? Have you casually inquired about his living situation to ensure he isn't married or has a live in partner? Or, do you believe this is a fun, flirty encounter he looks forward to daily as an ego boost? Also, how long has this being going on....weeks? months? If it's been more than a couple of weeks and he hasn't asked for your number, I believe he most probably isn't available.
Please forgive the questions. I want to get a little bit more clarity.
Hum....I'm imagining he's probably a bit fearful to start something else as he hasn't taken things to the next step. Are you interested? If so, perhaps suggest meeting for a drink or coffee after a work day. Do you feel comfortable doing this? You might say something like this, "Hey, I love chatting with you. Want to grab a drink tonight after work?" I'd make it very casual and see if he bites. If he doesn't, I believe it's safe to assume he is still getting over his previous long-term relationship.
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