Before my wife and I met in 2013 I had one dog a lab mix,

Here is an example of a text conversation she initiated while she was upstairs in the bedroom and I was on the main floor watching TV.
Her "Are we ever going to have sex"
me " I hope so"
her "You hope so, how come you never try, you haven't tried in 4 month, ive been the only one who tried and you've turned me down every time, am I that gross"
me "No your not gross"
her"Right, well ttyl I guess, good night, but hey I'm glad your enjoying a beer and your dogs more then your enjoying me"\
me "Maybe if you weren't so mean and didn't say things like that, and didn't complain or bitch at me, if our daughter started sleeping in her own be instead of in our bed. You tell me you don't like sleeping alone, that's why shes in there, how fair is that to me or her, she isn't going to be able to sleep by her self if this keeps up"
Our daughter is almost 3 years old and has been sleeping in our bed since she was born
her "Right Its all my fault, what ever forget I even said anything, you know why are you even with me anymore can you tell me that please, I feel more like your roommate then your wife"
me"Because somehow I hope that the person I fell in love with is still there, you've been so mean lately I'm hoping its just your hormones I keep waiting for the loving person to come back"
her "All I do is clean and cook and take care of our daughter all day then you come home and everyting I did all day is destroyed and like it didn't matter that I did anything then I go to bed and do it all over again, I walked through the back yard and realized my kids will never have a back yard to play because of the dogs"
me " see all you do is complain"
her" my kids will never be able to enjoy a clean house, the baby is going to be puking and pooping out dog hair"
me "I just cant make you happy"
her" wont ever have clean clothes just for once I want my house to stay clean, but it wont as long as those F-ing dogs are here, its not right and its not healthy, I'm never going to be happy if they are around, I'm never happy when there around,how can you not see this, I was never the house it was the dogs, think about all the shit you say I bitch and complain about what is it, I cant even get airfresheners to cover there smell, bathing them only lasts a couple days then they smell again"
me" Before I met you I had one dog, then you came and she loved you, then it was your idea to get another dog if you didn't want him I wouldn't have got him now hes part of our life. there was a time when you loved them,now you don't. I'm not like you I cant get rid of them because now you don't want them, you should have thought about that before, if you don't like it and cant deal with them and stopped loving them. Even though you yell at them and put them down every day they would still love you"
her" I'm always going to worry about the new baby pukeing and pooping out hair and that's not healthy at all, I don't want to go through what we went through with the first baby, they always gotta be right there,they are animals not human, they are just dogs"
me" maybe to you they are just dogs but to me they are family, everytime you complain about them it pushes me further away from you"
her" I'm glad to see you choose them over me that's great to know"
me "why do you make me choose"
her" just so you know I'm getting a cat next month for myself"What can I say to her, all I want is for her to be happy