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Hello, my name is Lindsey. Please give me a moment to read what you've written.
It may be that he's mulling over how to respond or what his options may be. How long has it been since you sent that last message?
I don't think you're wrong if you reach out - however, I would give him time to respond. Give him a chance to contact you first. This day in age, we are so quick to respond... when sometimes people need time to think over what they want to say or think more about their thoughts/feelings.
You could respond with "glad to hear" but he didn't ask anything in his response back... which tells me he might not be interested in engaging in a conversation.
I think that's a wise decision. You could also wait, like we spoke about earlier re: valentines day.
That makes sense, it sounds like you still want a relationship with him and it's almost as if the roles were reversed from the first time yall broke up - he's trying to find himself, like you were trying to find you. Did he provide you time/space to figure that out? If so, I'd provide him the same respect. It can be very challenging and emotionally draining when all you want to do is be together; however, I would try to work on getting out of the house and being active - this will help lessen your anxiety and provide an opportunity to try new things.
Okay, I gottcha. I think I'd do the same then. I'd wait a bit to share the news of the new tattoo, maybe in a couple weeks? You oculd send something that says Just wanted to say hi and see how you're doing, I also wanted to let you know I got a new tattoo (insert picture).
Of course! Glad I could help. Know you're not alone in that, many of us overthink everything! I think it's a great idea to work on you - that can only help to improve your future relationships with everyone in your life. Was there anything else I can help you with?
Makes sense, your fear is valid and I would encourage you to not dwell on that factor (again, easier said than done). If you spend most your time/days dwelling on this, you're not truly living life.
Exactly. It will be challenging and you also have to allow him time to figure out what he wants in life, just as you did.
Yes, that's fine! What's going on?
Hm, that is confusing! I don't want to seem crass or like I'm getting too into your personal business, but did you two engage in any sexual activity? If you don't want to answer that is totally fine.
Yes, I get what you're saying. Were there any thoughts on your part at any time that this may be a "booty call?" Unless something happened to him, it just is odd that he hasn't responded. Has it been awhile since you messaged him?
Ah okay. Well that's a good sign that yall were able to talk and get things out in the open. I guess I wouldn't put too much thought into it and see what happens tomorrow when you cut his hair.
Did yall set up a time on Sunday? If not, then yes I would.
Yeah, that would work - just text him in the morning. That is confusing. I think at some point you have to determine for yourself how long you're willing to wait. You have to weigh the options and which is best for you.
Hi - Well, as we discussed previously, he is figuring out what he wants and part of that is talking to other people. It may be upsetting but allow him to explore what his wishes are. How'd you find out? I would stop all contact with him until yall meet up in Feb. I know it'll be difficult to do, but there's this lingering attachment and it just doesn't seem beneficial or you or him.
Excellent - glad we're on the same page! I think that will be healthy for you.