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I've been having an affair with a married man for about 6

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I've been having an affair with a married man for about 6 months now. And recently just found out that I'm pregnant by him. I told him I was pregnant and he told me that he already has three children and he does want anymore and he doesn't want his wife to know he has another child on the way. My intention was to never breakup his family. But deep down I want this child. What should I do?
Submitted: 9 months ago.
Category: Relationship
Customer: replied 9 months ago.
I do have one child, a teenager daughter and I do think about her feelings as well. I'm 45 years old and i know there are risk of having a child at my age. He did say he would help me get abortion not sure if I really want that. Please help.
Expert:  Dr. ARUN PHOPHALIA replied 9 months ago.

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Expert:  Dr. ARUN PHOPHALIA replied 9 months ago.

I am sorry that your question was unanswered for long.

Expert:  Dr. ARUN PHOPHALIA replied 9 months ago.

My recommendations would be winning of brain over the heart. As a doctor and as a counselor, my recommendations would be to get an abortion for following reasons (all of which you already understand);

1) Pregnancy in this age can be risky for you as well as baby.

2) You may not be able to take so good care of baby, as you were able to take 10-15 years ago.

3) Both of your families may have emotional and social difficulties, and adjustment problems.

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