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I been married for 3 months a its been a week I found out my

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I been married for 3 months a its been a week I found out my husband was texting to his ex girlfriend and he said I LOVE YOU PALOMA the same words he said to me it was so painful I thinking to divorce him.
Submitted: 10 months ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  CounselorJules replied 10 months ago.

Hi,I'm Jules, a LPC,I am reviewing your question now, and will post back with your thorough reply briefly :)

Expert:  CounselorJules replied 10 months ago.

My goodness, I can only imagine the betrayal that you felt when you discovered this. I am so very sorry. I think that right now, go slowly in how you react to this situation. You are hurting so badly right now and you also feel that your trust, a major part of the foundation of your relationship, has been blown. I think that it will be important for you to think about long-term goals for your relationship and for yourself. You truly love this man, or you would not have married him, and yes, he should never have spoken to her with that type of language or even texted her period. There are boundaries that are necessary in order for you to have a sense of security and also protect your relationship and you will have to communicate with him exactly the expectations and remind him of the vows and how easily trust can be destroyed with these types of behaviors. If he has been remorseful, I would specifically ask him questions about what was leading to this type of communication? What was his response when you spoke to him?

Expert:  CounselorJules replied 10 months ago.

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