Ohhhhh dear, I am so sad for you as I have personally been in your shoes and know how difficult it is. In many ways it is unfair to you as you are left in limbo--unsure of what is going on and what will happen moving forward. I imagine this would horribly triggering to anyone with abandonment issues and most probably trigger insecurity in all of us. I realize this is probably not his intention but it's pretty cruel what he is doing and makes it very difficult to have a relationship with him.
I would reach out one last time and say something like this....
"Honey, I loved that we celebrated my birthday this past weekend together. It was truly wonderful. I'm really sad and concerned about what is currently happening in our relationship and am unsure of what to do. As I've mentioned, you've pulled away tremendously and I feel really anxious about this. Is there something in our relationship that is troubling you? Or, is this about something else entirely?"
It is incredibly difficult being in a relationship with someone who refuses to share their feelings and shuts you out every time they are preoccupied by something else. Only you can determine whether you can survive this. I do believe how he responds to your statement above will answer everything.
Again, I am so sorry, sweet soul that you are in this place. Please be true to yourself and be open with him....even if he choose not to be . This way...whatever happens moving forward, you know you put yourself out there and did everything you believed would be helpful.
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