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My name is ***** ***** I am a psychotherapist in the Metro Boston area.
Oh dear, I am so sorry to hear what you have been through. I can't even imagine how difficult this must be for you and the children involved. No doubt, you are incredibly hurt.....especially considering the longevity of your relationship. I imagine she has quickly moved on as a way of avoiding the pain of the ending of the relationship you shared. Sadly, the pain will be felt even more intensely when she chooses to deal with it.
I absolutely agree that they are both engaging in a rebound relationship--which, truly has little chance for a healthy future. I imagine it might be short-lived.
If the two of you do find your way back together, I would suggest to take things very slowly as it will be a challenge to trust she will not hurt you again. There is no rush either. I would also recommend couples counseling should a relationship with her be considered in the future.
In the meanwhile, please be gentle with yourself. This is incredibly difficult and no doubt, has left you drained.
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