I have been reviewing you question. I can provide a bit of service in regards ***** ***** the relationship and overcoming the toxicity, but the legal aspects of the question may be out of my scope of practice. I do know that defamation of character is a legal offense, at least in my state, and can lead to a court hearing. I do encourage you to keep all records of phone calls, texts, etc in a safe place. I encourage you to keep any kind of journal or binder of information related to bills, statements, etc.
As far as moving on, "Jill" unfortunately involved with someone that may have "Cluster B" personality traits. The 4 personality disorders associated with CLuster B are:
According to DSM-5, antisocial personality disorder is a “pervasive pattern of disregard for, and violation of, the rights of others that begins in early childhood or early adolescence and continues into adulthood.”
People with antisocial personality disorder have been described as lacking empathy, which is the ability to “put yourself in someone else’s shoes” in order to understand their feelings. They often act irresponsibly, lie, steal, or repeatedly break the law. antisocial personality disorder is also linked to impulsive behavior, aggression (such as repeated physical assaults), disregard for one's own or others' safety, irresponsible behavior, and lack of remorse.
An inflated sense of self-importance is the key feature of narcissistic personality disorder. Those with this personality disorder often believe that they're “special,” more important than other people, and entitled to special treatment. They require excessive attention, take advantage of others, lack empathy, and are described by others as arrogant.
People with narcissistic personality disorder also exaggerate their achievements and fantasize about being powerful, attractive, and successful. They have no interest in others' feelings and needs, but they do have unreasonable expectations of what others should do for them. Sometimes they envy others, but they often believe that they are envied.
The central features of histrionic personality disorder are intense, dramatic expressions of emotion that shift rapidly and excessive, attention-seeking behavior.
People with histrionic personality disorder constantly seek out attention and are uncomfortable when others are receiving it. They may often engage in dramatic, seductive, or sexually provocative behavior or use their physical appearance to draw attention to themselves. Additional features of people with histrionic personality disorder include:
Relationships that are not as strong as the person thinks they are
Shallow, rapidly shifting emotions
Strong, dramatic statements of opinion
The tendency to be easily influenced by others
They are characterized by dramatic, over-emotional, or unpredictable (erratic) thinking or behavior.
And last but not least....
Borderline Personality Disorder or (BPD)-
BPD is associated with specific problems in interpersonal relationships, self-image, emotions, behaviors, and thinking.
People with BPD tend to have unstable, intense relationships with conflict, many arguments, and frequent break-ups. They fear being abandoned. They often have a negative image of themselves, and they report many "ups and downs" in how they feel about themselves. They may say they feel as if they're on an emotional roller coaster with very quick shifts in mood, such as going from feeling okay to feeling depressed within a few minutes.
People with BPD often engage in risky behaviors, such as going on shopping sprees, drinking excessive amounts of alcohol or abusing drugs, engaging in promiscuous sex, binge eating, or self-harming (for example, cutting themselves or threatening or attempting suicide).
I gave you the breakdown of the disorders, so that we can further discuss how to get past a relationship of this type. I am sending you a few links about establishing boundaries after a toxic relationship.....
You can also contact a local law enforcement member and speak to them directly about the harassment and even the possibility of a restraining disorder.
Im also including a link about "Extortion." I read through it and I would say that you would have a case, but you would need to be able to support your statements with documentation.
I hope this has been helpful. If you can provide any more information, please let me know. I want to be able to help you :)