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My Name is ***** *****, my issue regards a breakup with my

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Hello My Name is ***** *****, my issue regards ***** ***** with my girlfriend of 3 years.
JA: Thanks. Can you give me any more details about your issue?
Customer: We've been dating for 3 years. We've had ups and downs. Allot of it was do to me not courting her properly and being inconsistent in our relationship, and when she would lose some interest in me, she wouldn't talk about it, instead she would go hang out with a guy friend. This is the 3rd time it's happened in 3 years, so I broke up with her. Now she's been crying begging me to talk to her, and I just can't talk right now. That's what I tell her, I cannot talk right now and to call me some other time. I really want things to work out with us, but I cannot have that behavior continue, I don't know what to do.
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Submitted: 1 year ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Dr. ARUN PHOPHALIA replied 1 year ago.


I am Dr. Arun and will be helping you today.

I am sorry that your question was unanswered for long.

I am not very sure if I am exactly handling what you need to know or understand. But her behavior may to be due to a bit of insecurity, which may have creep in due to not courting her properly. In any relationship there are few things which are necessary;

1) A trust

2) A proper communication

3) Clearing of misunderstanding at the earliest, if that happens due to any circumstance.

My suggestion would be; tell her that you are unable to talk to her at this time, but also tell about the time when you would able to communicate her and explain all the reasons up to her satisfaction when you would be talking.
This will help in smoother your relationship.

Please feel free for your follow up questions.

I would be happy to assist you further, if you need any more information.

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Expert:  Dr. ARUN PHOPHALIA replied 1 year ago.

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Expert:  Dr. ARUN PHOPHALIA replied 1 year ago.

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