Relationship

Have Relationship Questions? Ask a Counselor for Answers ASAP

Ask an Expert,
Get an Answer ASAP!

How do you prosper in a relationship when one person only…

Customer Question
How do you prosper in...
How do you prosper in a relationship when one person only cares about his blood relatives?
Submitted: 2 years ago.Category: Relationship
Show More
Show Less
Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Answered in 1 minute by:
3/7/2016
Counselor: Dr-A-Green, Psychologist replied 2 years ago
Dr-A-Green
Dr-A-Green, Psychologist
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 309
Experience: Clinical and Forensic Psychologist
Verified

This is a very difficult situation - one with no clear answer, I'm afraid. What is the nature of your relationship? Are you married - how long have you been together, etc?

Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Counselor: Dr-A-Green, Psychologist replied 2 years ago

For starters, everyone has different ideas about family and what is expected. This can be shaped by your childhood experience, where you grow up, religion, culture, etc. If you and your partner have different basic ideas about how close/intertwined you should be with your families of origin, it might help to clarify what the expectations are. For instance, some people believe that the partner (husband, wife, etc) should always come "first" (i.e. before the needs of others, including family). However, some do not. If your partner falls into the latter category, there may be little movement on this topic - take the time to ask him what he believes and why. Also, examine what your beliefs are, and what shaped them.

Is there any room for you to also be closer with his family members? Do you have a good relationship with them? Would you like to? Ask your partner how you can also get involved in events with his family so that he will begin to see you as one unit. Remember: It isn't you vs. them. If you set up that dynamic (e.g. "It's them or me!"), the relationship won't work. That will only cause him to defend his family members more staunchly and you risk being seen as an enemy. Your best bet is to try to figure out a way to value them as well.

Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Counselor: Dr-A-Green, Psychologist replied 2 years ago

To clarify: this doesn't mean you always have to believe that what his family members do is "right," but it may help to try to display more empathy toward them - to help your partner in helping them. It puts you all on the same side of the issue. That way he doesn't have to choose between you and his family.

Please let me know if you have further questions.

Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Counselor: Dr-A-Green, Psychologist replied 2 years ago
This answer is protected
Would you like to ask this question?
If you've already paid for this answer, simply Login.
Was this answer helpful?

How JustAnswer works

step-image
Describe your issueThe assistant will guide you
step-image
Chat 1:1 with a counselorLicensed Experts are available 24/7
step-image
100% satisfaction guaranteeGet all the answers you need
Ask Dr-A-Green Your Own Question
Dr-A-Green
Dr-A-Green
Dr-A-Green, Psychologist
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 309
309 Satisfied Customers
Experience: Clinical and Forensic Psychologist

Dr-A-Green is online now

A new question is answered every 9 seconds

How JustAnswer works:

  • Ask an ExpertExperts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional AnswerVia email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site. Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction GuaranteeRate the answer you receive.

JustAnswer in the News:

Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.

What Customers are Saying:

Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help.

Mary C.Freshfield, Liverpool, UK

This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!!

AlexLos Angeles, CA

Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult.

GPHesperia, CA

I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion.

JustinKernersville, NC

Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around.

EstherWoodstock, NY

Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know.

RobinElkton, Maryland

He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here.

DianeDallas, TX

< Previous | Next >

Meet the Experts:

TherapistMaryAnn

TherapistMaryAnn

Counselor

1,744 satisfied customers

Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues

Ms Chase

Ms Chase

Life Coach

853 satisfied customers

Over 20 yrs experience with Relationships, Sexuality, Friendship, and Family Issues

Alicia_MSW

Alicia_MSW

Psychotherapist

468 satisfied customers

Specializing in relationship/family counseling

Dr. Norman Brown

Dr. Norman Brown

Marriage Therapist

427 satisfied customers

Family Therapist & teacher 35+ yrs; PhD research in couples

DrJackiePhD

DrJackiePhD

Doctor

385 satisfied customers

I have been doing research in relational/interpersonal communication since 1998. My Ph.D. is in interpersonal communication.

Dr. L

Dr. L

Psychologist

366 satisfied customers

Licensed as a Psychologist and Marriage & Family Therapist.

Suzanne

Suzanne

Therapist, LCSW

338 satisfied customers

Experienced in treating trauma, relationship issues, co-dependency

< Previous | Next >

Related Relationship Questions
What does it mean when a guy says “expectations aren't
What does it mean when a guy says “expectations aren't wise”?A guy I just started seeing said that “expectations aren't wise”. Does that mean he is only looking for a casual relationship? That he is o… read more
Rafael-E-Therapist
Rafael-E-Therapist
Director / Psychotherapist
Master\u0027s Degree
442 satisfied customers
I have two adult stepchildren. One gives me "feedback" that
I have two adult stepchildren. One gives me "feedback" that I'm a great dad and a great guy, but when I tell him that his mom was violent with me, he talks about how he doesn't get to see his mom very… read more
DrJackiePhD
DrJackiePhD
Doctor
Doctoral Degree
385 satisfied customers
Elliott. wishing you a sacred Christmas and a prosperous new
Elliott. wishing you a sacred Christmas and a prosperous new year. liz I am full of anxiety, but the book you recommended helps. I am progressing on the the how not to smoke chapter. the idea of putti… read more
Elliott, LPCC, NCC
Elliott, LPCC, NCC
Adjunct Professor
Master's Degree
1,014 satisfied customers
my father is an alcoholic and my mother kept it well hidden
my father is an alcoholic and my mother kept it well hidden most of my life. Today he is in his 70's and has balance and eye sight problems. He has a lot of pain everywhere, and high blood sugar but n… read more
Elliott, LPCC, NCC
Elliott, LPCC, NCC
Adjunct Professor
Master's Degree
1,014 satisfied customers
My husband and I got into a fight over his daughter from his
My husband and I got into a fight over his daughter from his first marriage. He never listens he defends her right away and never me. Shouldn't he at least listen and talk to his daughter and see if I… read more
Elliott, LPCC, NCC
Elliott, LPCC, NCC
Adjunct Professor
Master's Degree
1,014 satisfied customers
I have a male relative who looks to me for advice and I am
I have a male relative who looks to me for advice and I am at a loss how to help this person. This person is in their mid-30's and engaged to be married. Shortly after this person got engaged the futu… read more
Ask Eleanor
Ask Eleanor
Psychotherapist Family Therapist Author
Master's Degree
62 satisfied customers
Is it reasonable to hold one sibling accountable for withholding
Is it reasonable to hold one sibling accountable for withholding damaging information about their best friends behavior when that best friend is also their sibling's significant other? Is blood thicke… read more
Jen Helant
Jen Helant
Bachelor\u0027s Degree
365 satisfied customers
How do I stop envying/ wishing my family were different? My
How do I stop envying/ wishing my family were different? My relatives my age had kids out if wedlock and are engaged. Their parents/ my aunts look after their kids. But if I did this I'd never hear th… read more
Dr. Paige
Dr. Paige
Psychologist
Doctoral Degree
847 satisfied customers
I gave blood yesterday as my partners father is dieing and
I gave blood yesterday as my partners father is dieing and his family arranged a blood donor day (my partner couldn't donate blood because he had used recreational drugs as a student) - the night prio… read more
SREED177
SREED177
Family Resource Specialist
Master\u0027s Degree
6 satisfied customers
Hi from Cyprus again. Thank you for you help until now. Things
Hi from Cyprus again. Thank you for you help until now. Things are getting better. Now I am taking the opportunity to write on behalf of my friend. My friend had an uncle, not married or family.( cous… read more
Jen Helant
Jen Helant
Bachelor\u0027s Degree
365 satisfied customers
It seems like most every relatively "normal" person I know
It seems like most every relatively "normal" person I know is in a relationship with a significant other. What are the most common ways people meet another person who turns out to be a romantic partne… read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
181 satisfied customers
I know I will need a sex surrogate to help solve my ED problem.
I know I will need a sex surrogate to help solve my ED problem. when I walk into the bedroom it drops soft. My spouse is not intereasted. Any one know of one know of one in DFW… read more
Elliott, LPCC, NCC
Elliott, LPCC, NCC
Adjunct Professor
Master's Degree
1,014 satisfied customers
Is there ever any reason to continue seeing someone when one
Is there ever any reason to continue seeing someone when one person feels more strongly than the other? Can this result in anything but heartache?… read more
Elliott, LPCC, NCC
Elliott, LPCC, NCC
Adjunct Professor
Master's Degree
1,014 satisfied customers
My husband has bladder control issues that he refuses to see
My husband has bladder control issues that he refuses to see a doctor about. He finds it too personal and difficult to bring up. So he choses to ignore the problem and simply uses adult briefs. My pro… read more
Suzanne
Suzanne
Therapist, LCSW
Master's Degree
338 satisfied customers
Hi my names Rachael, im 19years old. Im having a couple of
Hi my names Rachael, im 19years old. Im having a couple of problems with my boyfriend who is 19 also. We have been together for nearly 3years. Sometimes i jump to conclusions and think the worst but i… read more
Dr. Keane
Dr. Keane
Doctoral Degree
385 satisfied customers
Im a girl, Im 18 years old and im involved(inlove) with
I'm a girl, I'm 18 years old and i'm involved(inlove) with my sister in law's nephew and my family is against it. so do u think I'm doing wrong by following my heart please answer me because this thin… read more
KimberlyF
KimberlyF
High School or GED
554 satisfied customers
I have a great liking for a man who tells he is interested ...
I have a great liking for a man who tells he is interested in me; however, I feel his response of interest in me is not mutually the same. He tells me…that because he does not respond to me in the way… read more
Dear Candace
Dear Candace
Consultant
Vocational, Technical or Trade Scho
88 satisfied customers
I have been dating someone for four years. We have ...
I have been dating someone for four years. We have sex a few times a month, it is not intimate at all. we have not passionalty kissed in a year. He says he is stressed and not interested in sex. He is… read more
Carol
Carol
Wife and mother
Special aptitude dealin with r/ship
148 satisfied customers
Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Show MoreShow Less

Ask Your Question

x