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Thank you for the detail that you put into your question. It sounds as though you are processing this loss and it has definitely been difficult for you. there are several systemic factors in play here. First, he was in long term relationship, and he often attempted to please others. In saying that, he may feel that he lost his voice somewhere and is now realizing that he has to establish boundaries with others. When we try to pleas others, we become a slave to everyone. I know in those moments of weakness, it is normal to begin wrestling with self-blame or questioning our own roles. I think he is processing his own restoration at this time, and his answers and reasons have been very honest with you in regards ***** ***** he is focusing on himself. I wonder, if you feel somewhat used? or if you are questioning what your role was for him? You definitely don't want to be in a relationship with someone who is "incongruent" or not ready to move forward. A broken half, cant help you make a "whole." Does that make sense? Don't allow this experience to lead you to questioning your worth or what you deserve in a relationship.
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