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I would think about the significance of the things remaining in the home. Although there isn't value in those objects to you, it can be significant for him. A relationship loss still requires a grieving period. It sounds like it could lead to some sort of insecurity for you? If that's the case, attempt being vulnerable and sharing with him that you would like to understand the attachment. It's difficult to release relationships at times, but it is cathartic to purge. You don't want to force him to do this, but you do need to "request" not demand insight into the question. It's important to demonstrate validation for him. Pay attention to what emotional needs are being met in the relationship. Make sure those are going well rather than bringing up the past. I call it the "Oreo" method. Positive, negative, positive. Communicate the good things and recognize his efforts, identify the behavior or situation you would like to understand or to have changed, and then identify how you feel it would be helpful and reiterate the positives. You don't want to invalidate him, or make fun of his emotions in any way. Be respectful of the past relationships and understand that this part of his journey, brought you together. Focus on how loves you rather than your expectations of how he should love you.... Remember that he chooses you now. There's probably no comparison.
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