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I have been avoiding responsibilities for years and I just came to terms with it. Im trying to figure out why. When I have a job, I call in sick sometimes and don't follow through. I don't want to do this anymore

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Counselor: CounselorJules, Counselor replied 2 years ago
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It does sound like you have a tendency to self-sabotage. Have you thought about the patterns that you have engaged in and where they may have stemmed from? Sounds a bit like a defense mechanism related to anxiety? I would look at common defense mechanisms and explore your options in deterring negative thought patterns that perpetuate the desire for "fight or flight."

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