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I have beeb married iears and recently found my husband has

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I have beeb married for 37 iears and recently found my husband has been in a 12 tear affair we have not had problem I don't guess. I have never been so hurt. I am very unhappy and think of a divorce more that repairing it He says irs over but there signs that it isn't Do I Just leave I am 67 and he is 69 What I do?
Submitted: 1 year ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Michael Hannigan replied 1 year ago.

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Expert:  Michael Hannigan replied 1 year ago.

Being devastated is understandable. But after 12 years, why the sudden change with respect to the marriage? If you haven't noticed a problem, maybe there isn't one? I would slow down on the divorce. This is a big violation of trust, but 37 years of sharing your live with someone makes you far more important to him than 12 years of shacking up with him once in a while. If she meant that much to him, you would be divorced already. I would encourage you to work it out. Go to couples therapy if necessary.