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Hi Bill, I am sad to hear that on Christmas your heart is suffering. It is quite possible that she feels all of the wonderful feelings that you feel, but unlike you that is confident and excited about it all, she is terribly frightened. As you mentioned she has been single for some time, raised her son on her own and then all of a sudden, meets you, a wonderful man and the brakes comes screeching...most likely from a fear of loss....the loss of herself and the life she has known for some time. That does not mean she doesn't want it all with you, just that is scares her terribly. So, what do you do? You let her know how you love and care for her and will do what you can for her to feel safe and secure and if that means giving her the time and space for her to figure it all out, you will do just that. Then, you must wait...hard for sure, but that is the best thing to do that could afford the outcome you desire. I am sure she loves you too and even if it feels like the actions aren't lining up with those words, try and understand that most likely due to her fears. Keep the faith and let things play out.
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