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Hello, I'm Alicia. Thanks for your question, I'm happy to help you today. This is not an easy situation by any means, and I don't want to say that it's definitely over until you have a chance to sit down with him and talk this through. He owes you that much, what with everything you have been through together. It's not fair for him to just leave you like this without any real explanation -- it's not you, it's him, that's fine, but that's not enough to justify his actions and his treatment of you since the time you say he got stressed out and took the kids. Even if things are over, or he needs time (which makes sense, in a way) you still have a right to know what's what. In the end, I imagine that you don't want to be with someone in the long term who is going to act this way, and perhaps deep down you know that the relationship is probably over, but I still think that if I were you I would want the opportunity to discuss this with him and get some answers -- at least so you can have closure and move on with your life. As things stand right now, it sounds like there are a lot of loose ends that haven't been tied up, and I can imagine how difficult it is when you have to work together and he acts like nothing has happened or tries to cover things up (obviously, because you're in a professional environment he needs to act this way, but he should at least have made the effort to say something like, hey, let's talk later). I don't want to be cruel but it is almost cowardly that he ignores your texts and doesn't give you the chance to talk. You can't force him to talk, of course, but I would suggest that if it's at all possible (and it might not be), I would say that you should try to get him to set aside a time when you can talk and at least have a proper ending (or explanation). I hope things work out, one way or the other. Please let me know if you need additional assistance.
Hello, I'm very sorry but I was away from my desk and only just saw your request for a phone call now. I am not available today for a call but if there's anything you'd like to discuss further I can send you an offer for extra time to chat (privately) via email, or we can continue here if you like. Just let me know what you'd prefer to do. Best wishes.