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Hi, I'm Alicia. Thanks for your question, I'm happy to help you today. I don't think you're being paranoid -- I think anyone would feel the same way if they were in your shoes, especially since she still lives with him. Obviously there must be extenuating circumstances (such as finances) that are causing her to still live with him, because it does sound like they have a very dysfunctional situation at the moment. I'm not sure if it is because she is still with him -- I think it's because he's controlling and perhaps abusive (it's hard for me to say for sure because I obviously don't know either of them but based on what you've said here it sounds like it could be the case) and if she's talking to you and he walks in, he might become jealous or angry or whatever -- and that causes her to hang up on you or otherwise leave the conversation just hanging. Which is of course, frustrating and concerning for you. I think she cares about you but she's just stuck between a rock and a hard place and doesn't know how to get out. I can't say how you should proceed, however -- staying in this long distance relationship with her while she's still living with him is going to be difficult for you (and her), unless she leaves and is able to move out on her own. But the ball is in her court on that one. You could talk about your feelings about this with her and see how it goes, but ultimately she's the one who's going to have to make the decision to leave. I wish you the best of luck.