This is such a difficult question for women. I want you to know that I get these questions from almost every country. It is an extremely widespread worry for women today. So don't feel alone in this uncertainty and this concern. And I even get this question frequently from men as well. Because the reverse situation can happen as well, where a woman will initially show interest and then all of a sudden she's not available or she doesn't return calls, etc.
And the man in that situation will write to me and ask me what he might have done wrong that made her become standoffish: maybe he seemed to needy, or too pushy, or too eager, or too....whatever.
We live in a time when there are no easy rules to follow when meeting someone and when dating. That makes it so hard for both men and women.
So you see, it is very difficult to try to examine your behavior under a microscope and decide if there is something about what you did that made the other person behave in a way you didn't want. There's just too much you don't know: did something happen in his life that has taken his concentration? Is he a "user" and found someone more promiscuous to occupy his time? Did he actually have a girlfriend and she came to Cyprus all of a sudden to be with him?
In other words, your behavior is only a small part of what might have caused his behavior. He is the main reason for his behavior no matter what.
I have found that people do their best when they don't overanalyze themselves. You were interested in him and you were enthusiastic. Did that drive him away? Well, it shouldn't have. You accepted his invitations; did that indicate you are needy? Not automatically, no.
You acted honestly and openly. That's good behavior. I honestly do not recommend you become standoffish because of this. What if the next man you meet is more shy and he gets discouraged because you are not accepting his invitations? Do you see how trying to change who you are can be counterproductive?
So, accept that he is behaving because of who he is. And you have a right to be who you are. And so if you want to text him and ask him what has happened, that is okay in today's world also. If it is something that you would be comfortable doing. If not, then don't contact him and move on. That's okay as well. But don't overanalyze yourself, okay?
I wish you the very best!
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