this woman had damaged her vehicle about five weeks ago, she initially said it was two flat tires and I noticed she had borrowed one of her ex's cars.
The vehicle sat at the lot where the damage took place for over a week, then she advised it was moved to repair shop that I had taken her previously. She mentioned this one night. She called me on a Monday morning after not seeing her all weekend to ask my advice about her car. She kept calling me her best friend, not a boyfriend. I told her I didn’t want to help as her friend. We spoke a couple times that day.
I called the auto repair place about a week and a half later and asked questions pertaining the damage and the parts required. I was just trying to help her and take care of her without her knowing about. I then texted her my comment and that she should file for insurance coverage because of the extensive dollar amount, $3500. I asked when the parts would come in and when the vehicle would be ready.
The vehicle was ready today and I texted her to ask if she needed help picking it up. I also said I had followed up with the place to make sure everything was being handled properly. I didn’t tell because I was behind the scenes.
She went ballistic in text, saying that I was hurting her by calling, that I wasn’t respecting her, I didn’t have boundaries, and I am weird. I replied I was just helping out after she wanted my help a couple weeks prior. Saying she doesn’t call my friends, family doctor, -- this is just the car repair place. I asked her if she is afraid that her ex will find out if someone says something at the car place, she said no.
Please advise, I have never heard of this behavior over something like this but was I wrong in trying to help her out this way. Maybe I should have never said something today.