Seeking expert testimony is a sign of strength. A personal relationship with a caring professional is proven clinically effective.
I believe that I can help you with this crisis situation.
I understand that this is almost overwhelming you, but you must stay steady and focused for the sake of your child and for your own sake.
You cannot undo some of the past, nor do you want to because you now have a baby that you love.
He has proven himself to be unreliable and unfaithful in at least one way, and possibly with other women as well. He will not change, and has no remorse for his actions.
You are hurting now but in the not so distant future, if you let him go, then you will see that you are much better off and will have an opportunity to make a life with a mature and responsible man who will stand by you and your child.
You must first of all come to terms with the fact that this relationship will not work for this man has no feelings for anyone but himself. He may have a narcissistic personality disorder and will never care about anyone else and will always manipulate and deceive you.
I recommend finding the best possible divorce and custody attorney and make his promises of support a matter of the law. In that way you will get a monthly check from him and the law will stand behind you.
Get someone to help you pack up his posessions - all of them - and drop them off at hs mother's house. Don't go yourself. Let a delivery person drop them off and have her sign for them.
Call on your sister's for help. They were liberal with their advice and surely they will help you keep things together.
I recommend the following book to help you understand how best to deal with this man.
He will hurt you even more if you allow him to and so you should be prepared:
Even if he is not a narcissist (although he certainly behaves as if he is), this book will enlighten and guide. Randi Kreger will help you. She is brilliant and understanding:
He will try to keep you off track. I suggest ending communicating with him until you talk with an attorney. He will continue to lie to you and deceive you, and if you do not listen you will not be taken in. .
Keep praying, of course. I shall add my heartfelt prayers to resolving the situation for your son and for you.
Elliott, MAE, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC