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Have you taken him up on his saying he wants to see you?
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I asked him in a playful way when we will get to go out to dinner and his reply was that he works all this week but did not say maybe next week or when he has time
Yes, this is frustrating, I can imagine.
You're more traditional: you want the guy to show his interest but not only interest, to actually move things forward.
It is because I feel I am getting mixed signals from him.
You are getting mixed signals from him
And it's very frustrating.
It's hard to know if he's just a shy guy, which is very common today, who doesn't really know how to be forward or
if he's not being totally straight with you.
I'm not sure whether this is a good thing or not. And I am beginning to feel like I should just ask him if he is interested or not
I was thinking the same thing.
I think if it's going to move forward, you're the one who has to make it happen.
I don't want to come off as a needy person though
That isn't coming off as needy if you're asking, "Hey,
we've been texting a lot but I'm wondering why it doesn't seem to
it doesn't seem to work out to get together. What's your take?"
What do you think?
I think I just need to work up the courage to ask him and be mentally prepared for the worst
Wait, let me help with that part:
you're already at the worst. What do I mean?
The worst is that you've got a guy you're interested in but it's not going anywhere.
That's pretty unhappy, right?
I never thought of it that way...
But yes it is unhappy
So, if he says that he's really not interested, you're better than where you are now, right?
Because you can move on, agreed?
And if he says, right, let's get together, then that's also better....
There really is no downside to asking and getting an answer from him. It's only scary because you're afraid of the negative answer. But right now, you're living in the worst situation...
True, I am constantly wondering if he likes me or not and I would rather find out if he does or does not
Yes, it's really no fun living in a state of hope and dread, hope and dread.
So, I think you're right that it is more worth it for you to find out.
Because you've given him enough time and now it's your turn to "lead" in the dance...
Yes I will take the lead
Good for you!
Okay, I wish you the very best!
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