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I understand where you are coming from and your answer makes sense. I love having relationship talks especially if I feel they are proactive. However, I find it difficult to have these talks with my significant other because she gets upset very easily and absolutely hates any hint of confrontation whether it is present or not. In bringing things up in the past, she will often cry, will shut down and not be able to think and talk clearly or proactively until an hour or so passes. It is frustrating because I've been able to predict how these talks will go. I'm still a young guy (age 24) and this is my first relationship where I have lived with someone and if it doesn't work out I'm really dreading the awkward move as I live in an apartment that requires 2 months notice.
After 2 years I guess I thought that it would take more than a gut feeling or cold feet to end a relationship. This is really what I'm stuck on, how much is enough after so long?
Maybe I just love being the devil's advocate but it just doesn't seem right. She does make my life easier in many ways and she has a good heart as well as many of the values I do look for.
Sometimes I have a bad day and my mood can perceive things in a very biased manner. Today has been one of those days(Did poorly on an exam this morning). Although I agree that discussing these things with her is a good idea, I may delay on it until my mind is less biased.
I'm sure I'll be back on here again in the near future. Thanks for your help.