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Thanks for your response. I feel like I've tried to be more communicative. Its difficult because she is a clinical psychologist and I I don't feel like I'm on the same level of sophistication in the things I bring up to her. I'm having trouble coming at her with new ideas. She is always saying think outside of the box. You're right she has said that she wants to see more action. We've had alot of relationship trouble of late and I just am scrambling thinking of ways to reach her before its too late. I am tired of letting her down.
I think that's part of the problem. I've told her that I love her very much. I've told her that she is everything to me. That's the stuff that she finds repetitive. She wants me to say something different but in reality she needs to see action. Its like she wants immediate results but these days is so quick to judge. I am far from blameless. We have had ongoing relationship problems and its still really early in our marriage. I love her and am trying to make her feel special but I feel like I am coming up short in words and my grand gestures to make her feel special (taking her on special trips, cards, letters, etc.) just don't seem to work. I've mentioned counseling to her before and she has said that the counselor will tell us that we shouldn't be together. I'm sorry if this is so scatterbrained. There is just alot going on right now and it feels very critical - like I only have a day or a couple days to make a difference. I feel desperate. I really appreciate your input.
You've been extremely helpful. I know its a rather open ended question but the question will come up when I talk to her today about what ideas and what plan I have for us. She feels like our relationship has been one sided. Like she does all the work and is tired of waiting for me to change. I think the hardest part for me is that when we speak in person. I'm reduced to a stuttering stammering mess. She feels like she's heard everything that I have to say and to a certain extent she's right. I don't know what to tell her that my actions wouldn't show better but yet she's always asking me if I have anything to say for myself. I love her and I hate seeing her so unhappy. I've never cursed at her or said a mean thing to her but she has said that she thinks that I am abusive (I'm guessing emotionally). I just want to have something new to say or do for her and I am out of ideas right now. Is there anything you could suggest?