Seeking expert testimony is a sign of strength. A personal relationship with a caring professional is proven clinically effective.
I believe that I can help you with this situation.
I know that you think that this is something you did wrong, but it seems as if there may be other outside factors in play in these two cases.
I any case, there are ways to MAXIMIZE your positive impact on women.
Things have become very complicated and different in the last 10 years or so in the dating world. It is not so much an issue of confidence, but of undestanding the new rules of the road.
Here is a wonderful book for you. I have the Collins Book Link is Australia but you can probably find it nearer.
by Diane Mapes
and from the same source this excellent and helpful book:
by Sherfield, Robert M.
I know that you can overcome your self doubt and perhaps your miscommunications.
I wish you great success and shall keep you in my prayers.
Elliott, MAE, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC