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He's only really been like this since I left.
I regret that decision, I really do, and he knows that also. I know what it was like when he left me couple years ago, it took me 18 months to be able to trust him again, but we were in a relationship at that time. Right now, we aren't. We're in a seeing each other casual thing, not labeled like last time.
He used to believe me, but as his work mates and and family and friends were telling him different, it just changed.
It has been getting better last month or so, we are still having these issues, but people are seeing us hang out together, and people know that we are back to living with each other, as a month ago, it was all a massive secret.
I'm trying to focus on the positives, yet as I don't have much confidence in myself, I tend to focus on the negatives. It's my biggest downfall.
I know it's going to take time, and a lot of it, and yes, I am impatient. I think that's why it has me so worked up and stressed all the time, and because it's something I can't completely 100% control it frustrates me.
I will follow your advice when it gets to him being crabby. In turn I need to learn to let go the small things and not ignore him or take my frustration out on him.
Thanks. I will definitely keep on practicing on the positives. Even though we may not be talking all the time, we are still living with each other and hanging out on the weekends. That is a positive.
One step at a time. Thanks so much :)