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I can imagine how distressing this situation must be for you. I understand how sensitive this issue must be for you. And it must be causing you great anxiety. You are right to take this seriously. And I'm glad that you have asked for help with this because this is very important.
Virginity is established two ways in women. The first and most important way is through the presence of the hymen, which is the membrane like tissue that covers the vaginal opening. The second way is not always present and that is a certain amount of pain and tightness during intercourse the first time or first few times.
Now, the hymen can be broken and thus disappear in a number of ways. For example, a girl can lose her hymen by riding a boy's bicycle (they have a bar higher up than a girl's bike) and if she has an accident and falls hard on top of the bar, it can break the hymen. If she were to hit a hole in the road and the bike lost control, for example.
This is the most common way along with tree climbing or playing a stick game and falling on the stick, for example. So, you need to decide on an accident you had when you were a girl. Make sure you have all the details already in place: when, where, why you didn't tell your parents, etc. And that it hurt so much you couldn't walk for about a half hour, you remember, though it seemed like forever.
Then, when you have intercourse with your husband, moan from some pain but tell him how much you want him to continue. If he asks why no bleeding, then tell him that you had an accident when you were young but that it's still painful because it's new and you're a virgin.
Now, this is important: no matter what, don't ever tell him about your relationship with your ex. Not even about any friendship. You will be tempted. But don't ever. This is your secret and it needs to remain this way forever.
Okay, I wish you the very best!
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