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I pretty much expected you to write what you did. I didn't give you any more details because I apparently had a character limit in the question box. Also, I am not your average woman, in that I now about what you described as "male live in the moment" type of behavior having said this, I interact accordingly in that I just don't hang on to the moments or read things into them. He is a military vet with p.t.s.d. and impulse issues, possibly from a brain injury from being hit by a truck when he was six as well as pain issues from motorcycle wrecks and diabetes and what not. That not withstanding, he is usually a very loving individual. What I didn't get to tell you was. We came out of the theater, by this time is was about 3:30 pm and neither of us had eaten since breakfast, so it was way past time to eat and I noticed that I was feeling it. He snapped at me at reached over to by bike and pointed out just a cord handing where my GPS used to be. I simply stated in a matter of fact manner that he was not going to speak to me in that manner. He got huffy and made the statement about me having had my head you know where and decided we were not going on to a bike event and that he was going home and that is what we did. At home, He turned around behind me and drove off, didn't know where at the time, turned out a neighbor was putting stuff on the curb from moving and he was rummaging. I drove to get gas and came right back, parked and was met with a where the f*** did you go, I told him. Now he reaches into the saddle bag of his bike and takes out my GPS and hands it to me. I took and put it in my saddle bag and said thank you and went in the house. My feelings were obviously hurt, not so much by what was said, that would have blown over pretty quickly. I was really disturbed by what he had done. I don't know when he retrieved the GPS, probably when he used the restroom at the movie. But it was the covert action combined by what felt like a punishment that bothered me the most. If the foot had been on the other foot, I would have remembered maybe when I was in the restroom and returned to the movie and told him "Hey I realized that you left your GPS on your bike, but don't worry I locked it my saddle bag, try to remember next time okay. Seems reasonable to me. Now I don't now how to bring it up. He's never done anything like this before.
Sounds reasonable. This feels a little like owning a dog. He's a great dog, but he had an accident and pooped on the kitchen floor. Solution: Clean up the poop and resume house training with positive reinforcement measures until the pet in eliminating outside again. In some respects, it's nice that men are this simple to deal with. I guess this one blind sided me a little.
Thank you for your input. I will definitely be addressing the issue accordingly.
Thank you again.