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My 68 yr old husband had an affair with a 26 yr old for 14

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My 68 yr old husband had an affair with a 26 yr old for 14 months. When I found out, I was devestated that I did not find out sooner. I spoke with her calmly and she confirmed she had sex with him, but not often because he has Erection Dysfunction due to Diabetes; however, she did receive money from him and she accepted it because she has two little girls, and needed to buy necessities for them. My husband and I continue to have sex, but not often. However, since finding out, our sex is better and he has an erection more often. I actually would like for him to continue seeing her; I enjoy hearing about these get togethers. Is this normal, it really turn me on.

Hi! I'll be glad to help you with this issue.

I can imagine how confusing this situation must be for you. The story of this affair certainly has not progressed in the traditional way. You are not upset. Rather, you've found that your husband's sexuality has improved and thus your own sexual satisfaction. And even more surprising to you, the idea of this other women is sexually a turn on for you.

The idea that you need to feel negatively about this whole thing is not really a requirement. You are all consenting adults. An important element of the story is that this woman, even though she has kids, is not married. Thus, there is no person here who is being deceived. All three of you are adults and you have the right to conduct your sexual affairs as you wish.

Morally, you are not violating our societal laws. You and your husband know your religious and ethical moral beliefs. Therefore, again, you have no need to feel as though there is something intrinsically wrong in what you are proposing.

There is one concern, though. Her expectation may be to continue receiving money. So you and your husband need to make sure that she can fit within your budget. If so, then it would seem you two have found a way to renew your sexual lives. So, enjoy.

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