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I believe I can help you.
I understand how devastated you are over your friend's blatant disregard for your feelings, and then dropping you for another woman who probably did not match up to you.
You sound like a great woman and a good catch.
There is no telling why he has changed his mind about you, but most likely he was seduced by this woman who stole hm away from you. Perhaps it was the novelty at first, but she mus be working hard to hold on to him, even letting him drive her car.
He sounds as if HE is very insecure and has low self-esteem and that might have played a role in his betrayal of you.
His behavior and commitment has not always been consistent and perhaps he has strayed before.
What can you do?
Move on with your life. It will take some time to mend a broken heart, but hearts are very resilient and heal quickly.
He may or may not reach out to you. You cannot base your life on that. Even if he did, he has shown himself to be a bad friend.
Divert yourself with activities, friends, exercise and don't try to make contact with him.
If he contacts you he needs a lot of explaining and apologizing to do, which you can allow or you can move on without him.
If you have self-esteem issues, I strongly urge you to get the following workbook which will help you, and another book that will inspire you and give you pleasure and positive hope.
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I believe that your choice not to contact him is the right one and will HELP you regain your self esteem and take control of the situation.
If I can be of further assistance on this question, please get back to me.
I shall keep you in my prayers.
Elliott, MAE, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC